The Queen Wants Prince Harry and Meghan Markle to Stop Doing This 1 Thing Immediately
Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are officially married. Though the entire royal family reportedly adores the former Suits actress, the couple has had to make a few changes to adjust to the new expectations that come with their married life. Prince Harry’s grandmother, Queen Elizabeth II, wants the couple to stop doing one non-royal thing immediately (No. 10). You also won’t believe what Prince Harry and Meghan Markle can’t call each other when out in public (No. 12).
1. Constant scrutiny
Though Prince Harry adores his grandparents, the queen and the Duke of Edinburgh are some tough cookies to crack. In fact, Prince Philip has held a 20-year grudge towards his son Prince Andrew’s ex-wife, Sarah, the Duchess of York for a scandal she was involved in during the ’90s.
While the royal couple loves Markle and has even watched her on her hit USA show, Suits, they are also closely watching everything Harry and Meghan do to ensure the young couple adheres to royal standards. This can make for some very awkward public moments like Prince Harry rejecting Markle’s attempt to hold his hand during a recent reception at Buckingham Palace.
Next: A few key players have swooped in to help.
2. Advice from seasoned pros
Since her life has changed drastically and she made the move to the U.K. to be with Prince Harry, Markle has learned a lot about being royal. Luckily, she lived steps away from Prince William and Duchess Kate. She’s been able to grow close to them, even bonding with their two children, Prince George and Princess Charlotte.
After having to go through royal training herself, Duchess Kate has been a helpful resource for Markle as she learns to navigate her new royal life. Prince William has also reportedly made himself available as a resource for Markle if she ever has any questions or needs help with something.
Next: This was once out of the question for royals.
3. Overlooking a royal no-no
The queen obviously really adores Markle, especially since the self-proclaimed feminist gets along wonderfully with her beloved royal corgis. In fact, the queen gave them an official blessing to wed. In her official letter, she wrote,
My Lords, I declare My Consent to a Contract of Matrimony between My Most Dearly Beloved Grandson Prince Henry Charles Albert David of Wales and Rachel Meghan Markle, which Consent I am causing to be signified under the Great Seal and to be entered in the Books of the Privy Council.
This is super modern because Markle is a divorcee, which would have been a major no-no a few decades ago. Also, how cute is Harry being the queen’s “most dearly beloved grandson”?
Next: Relearning how to be in the public eye.
4. A different kind of celebrity
Markle reportedly had to take “princess lessons” to prepare for her new life. Though she understood what it means to be in the limelight as a celebrity, being royal is a completely different beast.
A royal insider told Women’s Day, “Meghan is such a warm person, but being a royal is very different to being a celebrity, and Meghan still has a lot to learn.”
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5. Say no to selfies
Harry and Markle also have to limit themselves when it comes to selfies, per royal protocol and the queen’s personal preference. Markle has already gotten ahead of herself by deleting all of her social media accounts. It’s probably been pretty helpful since royals are absolutely forbidden to take selfies. (Apparently, that’s peasant behavior.)
The super sweet actress has already mastered the art of saying no. At a recent event in Nottingham, Markle apologized to a fan who asked for one saying, “We’re not allowed.’’
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6. Always keep your composure
Long trips, tiresome speeches, and dull events are all on Markle’s royal calendar. However, she must always be careful to mask her exhaustion. In fact, if the former actress yawns in public, she’s actually going to be penalized. She’s also not supposed to gasp or frown.
We suppose the Northwestern alum should start trying to act as robotic as possible.
7. Maintain distance
Though the younger royals are much more modern and approachable, royals are still supposed to maintain an air of aloofness in public. For example, Markle is going to have to learn how to answer questions without actually giving anything away.
It’s definitely an art form that will be hard to master.
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8. The appropriate way to wear a tiara
When we think of Markle’s princess lessons, we like to imagine her walking around Buckingham Palace with a stack of books balanced on her head, but we’ve probably seen too many movies. Markle is now officially allowed to wear a tiara, but the glittering diamond incrusted crowns must be worn properly.
Modern royals wear their tiaras pushed back slightly away from the top of their heads and at a 45-degree angle. How regal.
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9. A swift hello
We’d imagine that constantly waving your hand at the public would make anyone tiresome, but as a royal, it’s just part of life.
Zarife Hardy, the founder of the Australian School of Etiquette explained, “She’ll obviously be taught more on the royal wave, it’s a bit gregarious right now and needs to be more fine-tuned. And also just that art of meeting and greeting. Looking someone in the eye, a nice firm handshake, no more than two pumps and a lovely warm smile.
Next: The one thing the queen no longer wants the couple to do
10. Stop the PDA
Though the queen adores her grandson and his new bride, she’s not too pleased about one aspect of their relationship. The super cute duo are extremely loving and affectionate in public, but that is a massive royal taboo.
An insider revealed to Women’s Day, “Being affectionate just comes naturally to Harry and Meghan, but it’s totally against royal protocol. The Queen isn’t thrilled about it at all, and word is she summoned Harry to the palace to remind him what’s expected of a royal. All the hand-holding just isn’t the royal way at all.”
Next: More surprising royal etiquette rules Markle has to follow.
11. The right way to sit
You’ll never see a royal crossing their knees — especially royal women. They must always sit with their legs together. And, if they must cross something, they can cross their ankles.
That said, they can also angle their legs to the side. Kate Middleton’s go-to position incorporates all three aspects and has even been coined “the duchess slant” by Beaumont Etiquette.
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12. No nicknames
Notice how we never hear Prince William call the Duchess of Cambridge Kate? That’s because the royal family doesn’t have nicknames — at least, publicly they don’t. When referring to his wife in a public matter, he always calls her Catherine.
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13. How to address the Queen
After that, she goes by “ma’am.” In addition, male members of the royal family are addressed as “your royal highness,” followed by “sir,” and female members are addressed as “your royal highness,” followed by “ma’am.”
Next: A strict dress code
14. Adhere to the royal dress code
The royal family has a strict dress code policy — one that should never be broken. As a rule of thumb, all members of the royal family must dress modestly. Markle doesn’t appear to have any problem looking modest and royal.
Next: When the queen stops doing this, everyone stops.
15. Everyone stops eating when the queen does
No matter who you are or where you are seated, the queen has control of all dinners, including when everyone is finished eating. As soon as she stops, so must everyone else.
Next: There are even rules for how to walk.
16. Rank dictates walking order
While royals are always accompanied by their spouses, it’s tradition for the royals to walk a few steps ahead. That said, it is also proper etiquette to let the woman lead. While the queen always walks slightly ahead of Prince Philip, Prince Harry often allows Meghan Markle to lead the way.
By royal family standard, the queen follows proper suit, but that doesn’t mean Harry is in the wrong. It’s still considered polite to let the lady lead — royal, or not.
Next: Royals even have to learn a certain way to walk.
17. A specific way to descend stairs
Descending stairs in a ball gown and heels can be a recipe for disaster. Luckily, members of the royal family are trained to walk down stairs with poise. For added stability, men typically put a hand out for their spouses.
That said, women must descend stairs in a specific manner. The royal family protocol is to keep their hands at their sides and the chin in line with the ground. They may use the banister for stability but cannot grab onto it. Instead, they place their hand gently on it and point their toes toward it as they walk. Who knew walking down a flight of stairs could be so complicated?
Next: Royals don’t need to ask permission to do this.
18. Don’t ask to be excused
When dining, the royal family doesn’t ask permission to be excused from the table, and they certainly don’t make a fuss about it. Instead, they simply say, “excuse me,” and get up and go.
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Additional reporting by Jessie Quinn.
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