The Real Reason 6 of Jon Gosselin’s Kids Don’t Speak to Him
It seems like just yesterday when Jon and Kate Gosselin were gracing our TV screens with happy smiles and tales of their sets of twins and sextuplets. Thanks to Jon & Kate Plus 8, viewers got to get a glimpse inside of the Gosselin family dynamics. But it wasn’t long before Jon and Kate’s marriage started to fall apart — and now, the once joyful couple with eight kids are still at odds despite their divorce finalizing nearly a decade ago.
Fans would assume Jon and Kate have had plenty of time to smooth the separation over with their kids, too — but it appears that’s not necessarily the case. In fact, six out of the eight children allegedly don’t even speak to Jon at all anymore. Here’s why.
Kate achieving full custody during the divorce put the kids at odds with Jon
Kate and Jon’s highly-publicized divorce meant custody battles were ongoing for the kids — and at first, Kate won full custody. Unfortunately for Jon, this immediately affected his relationships with his children, as he noted Kate dictated when and how the kids would see him. E! News notes their custody agreement did allow the kids to have weekly dinners and overnight stays at Jon’s house, but Jon claimed because of Kate’s rules, he would only ever get to see four of his kids at a time.
In an interview, he said, “Now all the secrets are coming out because I’m not afraid to say anything. ‘How come you only get four kids?’ Because who I get is who I get. Whoever comes through that gate or gets off that [school] bus is who I get,” he explained in frustration. And, because of legal fees, Jon was finding it hard at the time to head back to court and fight for custody again. He added, “If the kids want to come, they come. I love them all, but I am going to focus on the ones that want to come. My hands are tied.”
The twins, Mady and Cara, refuse to talk to Jon at all
While Jon’s relationships with a few of his children have improved over the years, it seems the majority of his kids still don’t communicate with him. Us Weekly reports Jon said, “[Leah, Alexis, Joel and Aaden] aren’t talking to me, but they’re talking to Hannah. I don’t get involved now with what the kids … it’s what the kids want to do.” He also noted he just wants his children to be happy and have a relationship with each other, as he noted, “If they don’t want to talk to me, that’s fine, as long as they keep up with their sibling connections.”
It seems his relationship with his twins, Mady and Cara, is particularly on the rocks. It’s known that the twins refuse to speak to Jon, and back in 2016, they spoke to People about their feelings regarding their father. While Cara remained reserved and claimed she wouldn’t even know what to say about Jon when asked, Mady was more forthright with her opinions. Mady told the magazine, “He doesn’t even know us,” as well as, “He should maybe spend some time thinking about why we don’t want to see him, and maybe realize that if he ever does want a relationship with us, talking about us on TV is not the way to make that happen.”
Jon is still hopeful that he can mend the broken relationship between him and the twins, however. Us Weekly reports he said, “[In a perfect world] I’d have just like, a normal relationship with my children, meaning, just communication. … With Madelyn and Cara, because when I think back, like, I was part of their life a little, and then all of a sudden there was nothing, you know what I mean?”
Hannah and Collin live with Jon full-time now
Not all the kids are against Jon, however. E! News notes most recently, Jon was awarded temporary sole legal and physical custody of Collin, the notoriously troubled Gosselin sextuplet. We also noticed Jon and Collin were spending more time together thanks to Jon’s Instagram. And Collin’s visits also meant he got to spend more time with his sister, Hannah, who has been living with Jon full-time for roughly a year.
In regards to the custody battle, E! News reports Jon noted, “We won in court. That’s like a big win. It’s nice when you win in court, especially when you go so many times like I do.” He also added, “It’d be easier for one parent to just transition him home, and he wanted to live with me, so it was easier to do it that way.”
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