The Real Reason Queen Elizabeth Has a Better Relationship With Meghan Markle Than Kate Middleton

The public is always eager to hear about any news that could reveal the feud between the Cambridges and the Sussexes. This is especially true when it comes to the two duchesses. The queen may sit apart from the two women, but many wonder if she could have a hand in their fighting. Observers have noticed that Queen Elizabeth is close with Meghan Markle. Could this contribute to the feud? Is Kate Middleton jealous of their relationship? The answer may surprise you. 

The Queen and Meghan Markle have a lot in common

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Although the queen has known Duchess Meghan for less time than Duchess Kate, she has a closer relationship with the former. According to Ingrid Seward, editor-in-chief of Majesty Magazine, as reported by Express: “With Meghan, she [the Queen] would tread very carefully and do her best to make her feel at home. They have a love of dogs in common and Meghan knows how to make her laugh.”

Prince Harry is sixth in line to the throne, so it’s unlikely that Markle will ever be queen herself. Because of this, Queen Elizabeth is free to have a more casual relationship with her, without worrying about passing along good habits or teachings that will affect the future reign. This is obvious in the way that the queen handles requests from Markle: She’s bent the rules more than once to make the Duchess of Sussex happy. 

For example, Prince Harry and Markle were allowed to marry in the church, even though Markle is a divorcee. In the past, the bride’s previous marriage would have prevented her from marrying a member of the royal family at all. 

In addition, Prince Harry was allowed to invite Markle to the family’s Christmas celebration, before they were even married. That’s never been done for another royal girlfriend or fiance. In the past, partners had to wait until after their vows to be included. 

The queen remains formal with Kate Middleton 

On the other hand, Middleton will be Queen Consort one day when Prince William takes the throne. Because of this, Queen Elizabeth has to ensure that Middleton has all the proper training and respect for protocols. 

“I think the Queen and Kate have a more serious relationship,” said Seward, “as obviously Kate holds all the Queen’s hope for the future and she would not want to do anything to upset that.”

Middleton fits the role of a royal very well and Queen Elizabeth seems to understand that. “The Queen admires Kate tremendously but does not have an intimate relationship with her as they don’t have much in common,” said Seward. 

The children provide a topic of conversation for the Duchess of Cambridge and the queen, but they don’t have much else in common. And unfortunately, according to palace insiders, Queen Elizabeth doesn’t ask much about the children. 

Kate Middleton is still positive about her relationship with the queen

Middleton has been very positive about her relationship with the queen, calling her “a gentle guidance.” In fact, Middleton has been very open about her praise for the queen.

“She’s been so generous and not sort of being forceful at all in her views,” she said on an ITV documentary.

And although the queen may not ask about the children much, Middleton insists that she sees her love for them all the time.

“[My son, Prince] George, is only two-and-a-half. He calls her ‘gan-gan,'” the duchess revealed. “She always leaves a little gift or something [for Prince George and Princess Charlotte] in their room when we go and stay, and that just shows her love for her family.”

Queen Elizabeth may have to be more formal with Middleton, but it doesn’t seem that Middleton takes it personally. Markle may be closer to the 2ueen because she doesn’t have the pressure of the crown. However, it doesn’t seem to come between the three women. Their relationships are different, but they all seem to understand their role. Fortunately, this may be one area where the royal feud isn’t causing trouble.