The Surprising Reason Why It Took Queen Elizabeth and Kate Middleton a Long Time to Build Their Relationship

Relationships between different members of the royal family always elicit curiosities from fans. Since the family in general is very private, it’s hard to know for sure who are truly close and who are really feuding.

Queen Elizabeth and Kate Middleton’s relationship, for instance, is something many onlookers have been curious about since Middleton became a royal in 2011. While there does not seem to be bad blood between the two women, it has been said that they did not become close until recently. And there is actually a surprising reason for this.

Queen Elizabeth and Kate Middleton did not bond right away

Kate Middleton and Queen Elizabeth
Kate Middleton and Queen Elizabeth | Anwar Hussein/WireImage

Middleton began dating Prince William in the early 2000s. The two of them dated for a very long time, and she eventually met Queen Elizabeth for the first time in 2008.

Back then, there were multiple reports that Queen Elizabeth did not initially like Middleton. Queen Elizabeth was a hard-working royal who took on numerous engagements a week, but Middleton did not have a stable job even when she was in her late 20’s. The tabloids even gave Middleton a mean nickname — “Waity Katie” — because it seemed as if she was simply waiting around to marry Prince William.

“Privately [Queen Elizabeth] had grave concerns and believed that Kate needed to have a job and an identity in her own right before an engagement was announced,” royal expert Kate Nicholl said.

Middleton and Prince William eventually married in 2011, and it took a while for Queen Elizabeth to warm up to her new granddaughter-in-law. In fact, the queen did not do a solo engagement with Duchess Kate until 2019. Yet, her first solo engagement with Meghan Markle came just a month after Duchess Meghan joined the royal family in 2018.

These days Queen Elizabeth and Kate Middleton get along well

Although it seems like they might not have gotten off on the right foot, it’s clear that Queen Elizabeth and Duchess Kate get along better these days, especially since Middleton has been showing her best self as a royal.

A source told Best Life: “The Queen is very pleased by the way in which Catherine conducts herself, supports William, and is wonderful with their young children. She never seeks to be the center of attention which is something Her Majesty admires about her.”

Meanwhile, another insider told Vanity Fair that, although Queen Elizabeth raised some concerns about Middleton not being able to fit into the royal family at first, it has become evident nowadays that the two women actually have a lot in common.

“Her mantra is very like the Queen’s keep calm and carry on approach in life,” the source said, “and she has the added benefit of making the Royal Family seem almost normal and in touch.”

The reason it took Queen Elizabeth and Kate Middleton so long to become close

According to Nicholl, Queen Elizabeth and Duchess Kate took a while to warm up to each other because they are both very shy. Nicholl shared: “Both women are actually quite shy so it’s taken time for them to get to this stage, but they have a very easy relationship now they’ve both made the effort.”

One thing Duchess Kate does to get on Queen Elizabeth’s good side is to put her family first. Middleton has three children and lets the queen be involved in their lives as much as possible, such as bringing them to Sandringham to spend Christmas with the queen and the rest of the family.

“I imagine that spending Christmas at Sandringham with her grandchildren and great grandchildren will be something [Queen Elizabeth] is very much looking forward to,” Nicholl said. “So Kate and William are doing the dutiful thing and putting the royal family first.”