This Is What Selena Gomez Is Looking for in Her Next Relationship

We can probably all agree that Selena Gomez has had a rough time in the relationship department. First, she fell in love with Justin Bieber when she was just a young teen and then the two broke up and got back together publicly a number of times before Bieber moved on to Hailey Baldwin. She then had to watch Bieber and Baldwin get married in one of the most anticipated weddings of 2019.

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So now, Gomez is putting herself first and making sure her next relationship isn’t half as painful as the last.

Selena Gomez’s new songs

Last week, Gomez opened up about her relationship with Bieber through two new songs, “Lose You to Love Me” and “Look at Her Now.”

“Lose You to Love Me” had been teased for a while, but “Look at Her Now” was a complete surprise to fans.

“And here’s my special gift to all of my ride or dies!” she said on her Instagram. “I created this with Apple especially for you. Y’all have been through it all with me and I thank you for pushing me to be the best. Look At Her Now is out now.”

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Both songs are a testament to what Gomez went through with Bieber. In “Lose You to Love Me” she sings about what she had to go through to find herself again after the relationship ended.

“This song was inspired by many things that have happened in my life since releasing my last album,” Gomez said of the ballad in a statement obtained by People. “I thought it was important to share the music, as I know many can relate to the fact that the road to self-discovery generally comes through the scars in one’s life.”

What is Selena Gomez looking for in a new relationship?

Gomez is finally ready to start another relationship.

“Selena is open to finding love again but it’s not a huge focus for her, she’s not on the hunt. But she does have a wish list, she knows what she’s looking for,” a source recently told HollywoodLife.

But it’ll take a lot more than a pretty face to get her to jump into something new.

“Obviously, she has to have that spark, but that’s only the first step. For her to get serious the guy is going to have to offer a lot more than that. She wants a real and mature love, a partner that she can connect with on every level, someone that’s not afraid to get really deep with her because when she loves, she goes all in. She wants a guy that’s very secure in himself and confident but NOT cocky, that’s a big turn off for her.”

And trust is at the top of her list of things she needs in her next relationship.

“And most important of all she wants to have total trust, that’s number one on the list. If she has any doubts she’ll be out of there so fast,” the source continued.

Finding her next boyfriend will probably be a bit of a group effort.

“Her girlfriends are her family so she definitely wants a guy that’s going to understand how important they are to her and be cool with her having them be a big part of her life,” the source said. “She trusts their opinions more than anything so he’ll have to get their stamp of approval too.”