‘Today Show’s’ Hoda Kotb Gets A Heartfelt Message of Thanks on Instagram from Dylan Dreyer’s Husband
Dylan Dreyer of the Today Show is expecting her second child next month. The morning show co-host previously shared her struggle with secondary infertility, as well as suffering a miscarriage earlier this year.
Dreyer and her husband, Brian Fichera, along with 3-year-old son Calvin, are now eagerly awaiting the birth of the family’s new addition. In light of the upcoming blessed event and in true holiday spirit, Fichera recently took to Instagram sending a special message to anchor Hoda Kotb for showing the couple tremendous empathy and compassion during a very difficult time.
In April, Dreyer discussed dealing with secondary infertility on Today which affects about 3 million women in the United States, according to Today.com. The condition is when you have one or more biological children but then struggle to conceive again.
Dreyer also revealed that she had a miscarriage in the winter, according to People. “’I think I lost the baby,’” Dreyer told her co-hosts of what she said to her husband. Fichera had told her, “’You didn’t lose the baby. It’s your body doing what it needs to do. You didn’t do anything wrong.’”
Despite suffering the loss, Dreyer remembered having to still go on the air, saying, “I’m devastated, and I have to go to work on the Today Show and be happy and smiling and pretend like nothing’s wrong.”
Dreyer was inspired to share her story in the hopes of helping other women. “This is something you need more awareness of. There’s this guilt that you have for wanting a second child when I have friends of my own who couldn’t have a single child. So here I am being ‘selfish’ that I want to have a second child and it’s like, no, that is not the case. This is our world,” she said. “My sadness doesn’t take away from anyone else’s happiness, and my sadness isn’t minimized because someone else has a sadder situation.” she said.
The story behind the pic
Earlier this week, Fichera posted a picture of himself and his family which included Kotb and her fiancé Joel Schiffman, along with daughter Haley. While the shot of the group showed happy faces from having just seen Sesame Street Live, Fichera revealed that there was a story behind the photo.
“To everyone that takes this picture at face value it’s just a snapshot from about 1 year ago of two families smiling ear to ear after seeing the infectiously joyous Sesame Street live,” Fichera wrote. “But let’s just scratch the surface of this picture and give you some background. Dylan wakes up to having suffered a miscarriage. This part you all know. What you may not know is that we had planned that very day to go see Sesame Street live along with Hoda Joel and Haley. With Dylan making the call that we would still continue with our day as planned despite the tragedy, I took off to Madison Square Garden with Cal, planning on meeting Dylan after her unscheduled doctors visit.”
Fichera went on to describe sharing the sad news with Kotb, and her comforting response. “When I arrived with Calvin Hoda asked where Dylan was…I told her she was at a doctors office and Hoda could see right away it wasn’t exactly a scheduled visit. My eyes began to well and I uttered what I hadn’t yet had the courage to say ‘I think we had a miscarriage,'” he explained. “So there I was with, honestly, my first one on one with Hoda and I just unleash this heavy burden on to her and without hesitation she gave me a hug…Joel reached out and the kids just sat with great anticipation waiting for Elmo to come out and rock their world.”
Gratitude for a friend
The post goes one to reveal how much Kotb and Schiffman’s support meant to Fichera in the couple’s time of need. “When Dylan arrived I had cried my tears and was ready to carry the world for Dylan to help get her through this time and it was all because @hodakotb and her family were so kind and so supportive,” Fichera shared.
Dreyer’s husband concluded his message expressing gratitude to Kotb and her family, while encouraging people to show kindness to others. “So as 2019 is coming to an end I just wanted to send a very special shout out to Hoda and her family for all of their support and friendship. Thank you guys,” he wrote. “And now you know the story behind this picture. It was the moment after hitting rock bottom where we decided to start our climb back up. Be kind to each other. You will never know the power of your kindness.”
Fichera’s message is ideally timed for this holiday season and should be acted upon throughout the year!