What Was Princess Diana’s Relationship Like With Queen Elizabeth?

Princess Diana was loved by an entire country, possibly even the world. But how did those closest to her feel? The queen has never been one to shy away from giving her opinion. It’s obvious she approved of Diana at the beginning, but after years of a troubled marriage and royal tension, how did the queen feel about Diana? Keep reading to get an inside look at the relationship between Diana, and Queen Elizabeth II.

The queen approved of Prince Charles’ marriage to Princess Diana

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Although the queen never directly told Prince Charles that he should marry Diana, she made it clear that she approved of her. Diana was young and beautiful, her parents had wealth and ties to the royal family, and she was viewed as virginal. (Camilla, by contrast, was seen as a woman with a history.) The queen viewed Diana as someone who could easily be shaped to royal life.

Queen Elizabeth offered Princess Diana comfort- for a time

Diana struggled through the first few months of her marriage, and the queen had empathy for her. Diana would often meet with the queen, seeking her advice, and greatly appreciated the support she received. She once told Ingrid Seward, author of The Queen and Di: The Untold Story: “I have the best mother-in-law in the world.”

At first, the queen accepted Diana’a regular visits, since it seemed to really help her. But as Diana became more and more emotional, often crying through her entire visit, the queen reportedly began to dread the encounters.

In the documentary Diana: In Her Own Words, it was revealed that Diana went to the queen in 1996 to seek advice about her loveless marriage. However, the queen was less than helpful. “I went to the top lady and said ‘I don’t know what I should do,'” Diana said. “She said, ‘I don’t know what you should do.’ And that was it. That was ‘help.'”

Princess Diana collaborated on a tell-all book

In 1992, the book Diana: Her True Story was released. Although it wasn’t confirmed until after her death, it was assumed that Diana had collaborated on the story. The book offered a troubling look inside her marriage and the royal family. The queen was astonished that Diana would air their dirty laundry in that way.

Princess Diana was the one person Queen Elizabeth never learned to handle

The queen once likened Diana to a “nervy racehorse,” who needed careful handling, not harsh discipline. But in reality, the queen never really learned how to manage Diana. If she was criticized, Diana took it harshly, often reacting as if the family was ganging up on her. But when the queen gave her freedom and allowed her to ignore protocol, Diana ran out of control.

Diana was both a blessing and a problem for the queen. The public loved her, and she softened the image of the royal family, something that was desperately needed at the time. But she also caused problems, by refusing to follow protocol, and for simply being unable to be happy. In the end, it was the queen who recommended that Charles and Diana divorce.

The queen was heartbroken by Princess Diana’s death

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About Diana: "Her infatuation with him [Prince Charles] must have been based on her romantic image of him combined with his lofty position. But there was so much more to Diana's longing than personal ambition. There was a checklist of expectations: Daddy's pride in his little girl, Mummy's return from the cold as the mother of a royal bride, the Sarah contest settled, her rescue fantasies finally fulfilled, marriage to the prince that could never ever be broken. Everything she longed for, ironically, was everything Charles feared." Tina Brown, author of 'The Diana Chronicles' ■ قالوا عن ديانا: "إن افتتانها وغرامها به [تقصد باﻷمير تشارلز] كان بكل تأكيد مبني على الصورة الرومانسية التي وضعتها عنه في مخيلتها؛ باﻹضافة إلى مكانته المرموقة ومنصبه النبيل. ولكن، بغض النظر عن رغبات ديانا العاطفية، كانت هناك عوامل أخرى كثيرة أهم من طموحها الشخصي. كانت هناك قائمة من اﻵمال والتوقعات: فخر واعتزاز أبيها بابنته الصغيرة، وعودة أمها بعد سنوات من الغربة وسوء المعاملة بصفتها أم العروس الملكية، وتسوية الحساب مع شقيقتها الكبرى سارة [التي انفصلت عن تشارلز بعد علاقة وجيزة]. لقد شعرت بأنها حققت أخيرا أوهام خلاصها عبر الزواج من أمير والارتباط به بشكل أبدي بحيث يستحيل وقوع الانفصال. ولكن يا للسخرية، فكل شيء كانت ترغب هي بتحقيقه، خشي منه تشارلز." تينا براون، كاتبة السيرة الذاتية بعنوان 'حكايات ديانا' ■ #princessdianaforever #humanitarian #princessofwales #princessdiana #gb #hertruestory #kensingtonpalace #uk #thebritishroyalfamily #theroyalfamily #thebritishmonarchy #queenofhearts #instagood #instaroyal #instalike #di #fashionicon #peoplesprincess #style #glamorous #icon #foreveryoung #uk #الأميرة_ديانا #أميرة_ويلز #أميرة_القلوب #الأميرة_ديانا_لﻷبد #بريطانيا #لندن #قصتها_الحقيقية #أميرة_الشعب

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Diana’s death shocked the public and the royal family, but the royals expressed their emotions behind closed doors. The queen was criticized for failing to capture the mood of the country during her address to the nation. However, many reports say that the queen was deeply touched by Diana’s death, and recognized it as a great loss for the country.

In a letter, written after Diana’s death, the Queen wrote: “It was indeed dreadfully sad, and she is a huge loss to the country. But the public reaction to her death, and the service in the Abby, seem to have united people round the world in a rather inspiring way.”