Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith may seem to have the perfect marriage now, but that wasn’t always the case. Through their Red Table Talk conversations and openness on social media, fans have seen how compassionate and caring Jada and Will are to one another, but what people don’t see is the work that it took them to get to that place.
The dark times in Will and Jada’s marriage
No one’s relationship is perfect. Even couples who love each other deeply go through rough patches. Will and Jada are no different. And about 10 years into their marriage, Jada became extremely unhappy.
“It just felt like loss,” Jada told People of the rough patch in her marriage.
“There was too much concentration on what was happening externally, and the family unit itself wasn’t getting the attention and care that I felt we needed.”
Though they had been together so long and had been through so much together, Jada was no longer content in the relationship or in her life.
“Will’s like, ‘We just came from Oslo, going to the  Nobel Peace Prize ceremony [for Barack Obama] as a family, you’ve got a big house with a lake– isn’t this amazing?!’ And I’m like, ‘No,'” she told the outlet.
It got so bad that at some point, the actress began having suicidal thoughts.
“By the time my 40th [birthday] came, I was like, ‘I can’t do it anymore.’ I was so depleted.”
On an episode of Red Table Talk, she even admitted that there had been some betrayals in her and Will’s relationship.
“I’m asked a lot about, ‘Is there infidelity in your relationship with Will?'” she said. “And it’s like, ‘No, but there’ve been other betrayals of the heart that have been far bigger than I could even think in regards to an infidelity.'”
What did she do to save her marriage?
In order to get her marriage to Will back on track, Jada realized that she had to work on herself.
“I had to really take time out for me and figure out what I wanted for myself,” she told People. “I had to kind of put everyone aside and ask, ‘What would I do every day if it was just Jada?’ I literally had no idea.”
But what she did know, was that her marriage and her family were worth fighting for, no matter how hard it would be.
“I am kind of a ride-or-die chick,” she continued. “I just knew with the kind of love that Will and I share — which is beyond romantic love — that we could transform our union and figure out how to re-create what we had.”
What is Will and Jada’s relationship like now?
After doing some self-reflection and figuring out what she wanted, Jada was able to mend the relationship with her husband. And now, the two are better than ever.
“The journey between Will and me… we have come to such a beautiful place,” she said. “I feel like we have a stronger bond than we even had in the beginning.”