Who Is Stedman Graham, Oprah Winfrey’s Partner, and How Long Have They Been Together?

Oprah Winfrey (L) and Stedman Graham attend the 87th Annual Academy Awards at Hollywood & Highland Center on February 22, 2015 in Hollywood, California.

Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham | Jason Merritt/Getty Images

Stedman Graham is mostly known as Oprah Winfrey’s longtime partner. If you’ve kept up on the news, you know the two aren’t married – despite being one of Hollywood’s longest-lasting couples. Most people don’t know much more about him than that. So who is Stedman Graham in his own right and how did he come to be with one of the most powerful television moguls in America?

Who is Stedman Graham?

Stedman Graham is a 6’7″ tall American businessman who was born in Whitesboro, New Jersey on March 6, 1951. Whitesboro is a small town in southern New Jersey, belonging to a larger area known as Middle Township. He attended Middle Township High School, where he played basketball. Graham was one of six children born to his parents, Mary Jacobs and Stedman.

What accomplishments does Graham have?

Although he is mostly known as the long-time partner of Oprah Winfrey, Stedman Graham has an impressive amount of accomplishments of his own. He is a successful businessman, who graduated with a master’s degree in education from Ball State University (class of 1979). He is a public speaker, humanitarian, human rights’ activist, author, educator, and podcaster.

Graham was married previously

Although he has been with Winfrey for more than thirty years, Graham was married once before. His first wife was Glenda Graham, and the two have one daughter together, Wendy. Graham is also a grandfather. In 2015, his daughter gave birth to a son.

How did he meet Oprah Winfrey?

Graham met Oprah Winfrey at a charity event in Chicago, Illinois in 1986. The charity was for Athletes Against Drugs (AAD), which is a charity that Stedman himself helped to found. After getting to know one another, they began dating that same year. They were seen at numerous public events together over the next few years, and have been together ever since.

How long have they been together?

Stedman and Winfrey began dating in 1986. That means they celebrated an incredible 32 years together this year. During that time they have stayed strong and supported one another, both privately and publicly.

Graham proposed to Winfrey in 1992

Although it’s widely known that the two never tied the knot, they did get engaged once. In 1992, after nearly a decade together, Stedman Graham proposed to Oprah Winfrey. She said yes, but the two decided to call it off shortly after. Both state they just realized marriage wasn’t right for them, and they don’t regret calling off the engagement.

Why did Graham and Winfrey never get married?

Oprah Winfrey recently opened up as to why she never married Stedman Graham – and never intends to, for that matter. According to Winfrey, the ideal the couple share about what a wife or husband should do would have never worked out for their relationship. Both were too focused on pursuing their careers and states there is no shame to that.

What is Graham and Winfrey’s secret to a long-lasting relationship?

One of the reasons the relationship has lasted so long, according to the couple, is the realization they weren’t meant to be married. It just wasn’t the right thing for them to do. Another big thing is that Graham is a strong man who knows his worth. This is a necessary trait in someone who is dating one of the world’s most powerful and influential television moguls.

The couple is also known to be very supportive of each other’s passions and pursuits. Neither feels jealous of the other’s accomplishments and are forgiving of their busy schedules. At the end of the day though, they make time for their relationship.