Whoopi Goldberg’s Great Advice on Prenups Came From Personal Experience
If you’re looking for marriage advice, you probably wouldn’t think of Whoopi Goldberg as the one to ask. After all, Whoopi isn’t married and has gone on the record saying she no plans to tie the knot again in the future.
But Whoopi’s take on the institution didn’t come from nowhere. She’s been married three times in the past and definitely has things to say about it. In fact, she collected many of those thoughts and published them in her 2015 book, If Someone Says, “You Complete Me,” RUN!
In Whoopi’s relationship book, she runs down many of the mistakes she made in the hope readers will avoid doing the same. For example. you’ll read her expressing a fair share of remorse that she didn’t leave one fiancé at the altar.
Indeed, Whoopi is incredibly candid in her book (as her fans would expect). So when she tackles prenuptial agreements in Chapter 13, it makes sense to take her advice as something coming from personal experience.
Whoopi says to always get and sign a prenup, no exceptions.
If you’re not a details person, you don’t have to read too closely once you get to Whoopi’s advice on prenuptial agreements. Because the chapter is titled “Get the F***ing Prenup.” It follows a recurring theme in Whoopi’s book.
In short, Whoopi believes people are fed a whole host of fantasies about love and marriage. Whether it’s magazine articles, romantic comedies, or love songs, Whoopi considers it unhelpful when it comes to people choosing a mate.
So you get her peppering her thoughts with “get the prenup” and “sign the prenup” like a musician does the chorus of a song. “If you’ve learned anything from this book so far, it is that the points I am trying to make her are to be realistic, to be truthful … and to not let false expectations get in your way and screw everything up.”
But what about the unsavory act of drawing up and signing such a document? “A prenup is an act of love,” Whoopi writes. “It allows you to both be clear from the beginning, to discuss things and set things up properly. Then you are both in it knowing where things would end up on the back end.”
Whoopi’s advice goes double when a woman makes more than her man.
While you can tell Whoopi is speaking from experience at all points, it get explicit in the back half of the chapter. That’s when she brings up the issues involved with women making more than their partners (and how that impacts a prenup).
“Women: If you are the breadwinner, if you are making money at all, you need to protect that money,” she writes. “[W]omen and children are the ones who end up financially screwed in a divorce.”
As she rolls on with a rant about people who build successful companies (Whoopi has several) and how someone might come late to the party yet demand a big share of their spouse’s assets (Whoopi had two brief marriages), you understand where she’s coming from.
Actually, Whoopi doesn’t mask it all that much, though she never names names. “This is a subject I’ve always dealt with,” she writes. “”I always made more money than most of the men I knew. It always seems to have been an issue, and I never understood why.”