Why Did Meghan Markle and Her Father Stop Getting Along?

Meghan Markle has a past just like everyone else. She isn’t perfect (although some might say she’s as close as it gets), and neither is her relationship with her father. Ever since Meghan began dating Prince Harry, her relationship with her father has puzzled people around the world. She obviously cares deeply about him, but there has been a lot of strain, and the two don’t get along. But what went wrong between Meghan and her father in the first place?

Meghan’s parents were divorced when she was young

Meghan’s father was a lighting director in Hollywood, and her parents met on a set. Her mother was a studio temp where her dad was working, and the two hit it off and quickly fell in love. Meghan wrote in an essay for Elle that she believes it was “her sweet eyes and her Afro, plus their shared love of antiques” that drew her father to her mother. Although things seemed blissful for a while, their marriage started to unravel. The couple divorced when Meghan was six years old.

She grew up spending afternoons with her father on set

Although her parents weren’t together, Meghan still spent plenty of time with both of them. She used to visit her father on set, and he’s largely the reason she got into acting. He also helped her through a tough moment in middle school, when she was asked to fill out a census form and realized that her mixed-race background wasn’t an option in the boxes to check on the form. “If that happens again, you draw your own box,” her father told her. Thomas Markle once won $750,000 in the lottery and used some of the earnings to send Meghan to private school; he always wanted the best for her.  

When Meghan was 18, things started to go downhill between her and her father — but the reason is still unclear

As Meghan grew up, she started becoming her own person. And when she was 18, she first explained that things between her and her father weren’t going well. A video surfaced recently of Meghan at age 18 saying that she and her father weren’t on the best terms. It may have had something to do with college or with Meghan’s relationship with her mother, but the reason for the downfall has never fully been revealed. However, when Meghan and Harry began dating, it was evident that she still cared greatly for Thomas.

Since Meghan and Harry started dating, Meghan’s relationship with her dad has once again been strained

Although something went down when Meghan was 18, it didn’t necessarily mean the two stopped speaking forever. However, things never got back to where they were when Meghan was young. Thomas eventually sold everything and moved down to Mexico, where he has lived ever since. And with Meghan filming Suits in Toronto, it’s possible that distance played a role in their lack of a relationship.  

When Harry and Meghan were planning the wedding, things with Meghan and her father became seriously strained. Thomas was caught paying the paparazzi to put him in the news, and Meghan didn’t invite anyone from her father’s side of the family to her wedding — except him. However, a few days before the wedding, heart problems kept him from flying over to the U.K.

According to The Cut, Meghan wrote him a letter after the wedding asking him to stop the nonsense so they could repair their relationship, but Thomas reportedly wasn’t answering any of her calls. Since Meghan and Harry wed, it’s been a he-said-she-said between Meghan and her father, and it’s unclear if the truth will ever fully come out. Perhaps Meghan’s new baby will spark a change of heart in both of them and prompt them to repair their relationship.

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