Why Is It So Hard to Tell if Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton Are Really Friends?

Meghan Markle and her sister-in-law Kate Middleton may have more in common than people realize. Both are now duchesses, and both have impeccable style and a dedicated fan base. But before that these ladies had their own lives. 

Meghan was an American actress and champion of social issues. While most people know Kate Middleton as the Duchess of Cambridge, she kind of did come from humble beginnings, similar to Meghan Markle. 

Yes, her parents were multi-millionaires, but they made their money by starting their own business and working hard.  When Kate’s parents met, her mother was a flight attendant and her father was a dispatcher at the airport. 

Since both of these ladies were born outside the royal circle and married into the family, you would think they’d be able to understand one another. Reports on their relationship are confusing, though. 

According to one story, the relationship is so contentious that Meghan made Kate cry. In another, the two are hanging out more and more. Are the reports true? Are these two friends or frenemies? 

The press paints their relationship as hot and cold

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The two are pretty quiet about how they get along. Insiders report a lot of scandals, and the public is left looking for clues that point to the true status of their relationship.

For example, when Meghan Markle and Prince Harry moved to Frogmore Cottage, away from the rest of the royal family, many wondered why. Was it because of a feud, or just a young couple looking to have their own space? 

There’s also constant speculation on the queen, and her relationship to her granddaughters-in-law. Sometimes it seems like the queen is favoring one over the other. This isn’t the first time the press has fueled rumors of drama in the royal family.

All royals receive this treatment

Actually, considering the history of the British monarchy, the speculation around Kate and Meghan’s relationship may be kind of light. The royals have almost always been surrounded in some kind of drama. 

The current speculation is similar to the kind of treatment Princess Diana and Camilla Parker Bowles faced in the 1990s. The press and public were constantly wondering about the relationship between the two women, and the relationship of each of them to the queen.  

Why all the scrutiny?

The dynamic between the British royal family and the general public is an interesting one. The public has always speculated about the royal life, dating back hundreds of years. Now that some people see the monarchs as just figureheads, with no actual political power, they’ve become more like celebrities than ever before. 

It’s almost like they’re part of a reality TV show, except the cameras never go inside the house. That ambiguity leaves fans wondering what kind of drama might be going on inside. 

It’s also possible that the speculation of drama surrounding Prince Harry and Prince William is a kind of inheritance. Their parents did make a lot of royal history with their very public divorce. Unfortunately, that means the two have always been in the media spotlight, and the public has become accustomed to drama in their family. 

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There’s a sense that any friendly behavior is all for show

It’s hard to say why people want to see tension in Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle’s relationship. Any positive interaction is labeled as an act. It’s likely that the two have a normal in-law relationship. Sometimes they may be at each other’s throats, others they may be on the same team. It is fun to wonder, though.