Why Princess Diana and Queen Elizabeth Couldn’t Stand One Another

Princess Diana and Queen Elizabeth seem like two of the most likable people on the planet. People from all over the world loved and admired the late Diana, and the thought of her tragic death still brings many to tears till this day. The queen has a fan base that speaks for itself, which is evident from the immense crowds that she draws whenever she makes a public appearance.

With all of these wonderful qualities, it would only be likely to think that the former mother and daughter-in-law duo would be the best of friends, even after Diana and Prince Charles were divorced. The unfortunate fact is that this couldn’t be further from the truth. Since it is difficult to comprehend, let’s take an in-depth look at why Princess Diana and Queen Elizabeth just couldn’t seem to stand one another.

It did not start out on the wrong foot

Princess Diana
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Although it may be quite easy to assume that Diana and Queen Elizabeth had a strong dislike for each other from the very beginning, it actually started off much differently. As a future king, Charles was under intense scrutiny and pressure to get married. He was already over the age of 30, and everyone was waiting and wondering who the future queen consort would be. Luckily, one of the queen’s ladies-in-waiting, Lady Ruth Fermoy, had a granddaughter named Diana who seemed to be the perfect young woman to join the royal family.

The queen was more taken with Princess Diana than Prince Charles was

In the beginning, the queen absolutely adored Diana. She thought that she could easily be taught to be a princess and eventually, queen. Although Diana was adamant about everyone knowing that the decision to get married was made by her and Charles, it is important to note that in order for Charles to propose, he needed approval from his mother.

At the time, Queen Elizabeth was more than happy to welcome Diana into the royal family. After becoming engaged in a very short time, Charles and Diana avoided directly answering the question as to whether they were really in love during their engagement interview. The queen, on the other hand, was smitten with Charles’s new fiance.

What changed between Queen Elizabeth and Princess Diana?

When Diana married into the royal family, she seemed to change what the British monarchy was all about. However, she and the queen had different views on how to handle royal life and, as many people know, Diana was not one to keep her opinions to herself.

Diana was quickly becoming the star of the family, and it didn’t sit well with Queen Elizabeth. It appeared as if Diana was becoming more of a celebrity than a princess, and the queen was left wondering why. This caused tension between the two, as Queen Elizabeth had a specific idea of how the royals should portray themselves, and with her strong opinions and even stronger personality, Diana wasn’t exactly following protocol.

How does Queen Elizabeth feel now that Princess Diana is gone?

When Diana was tragically killed in a car crash, the royal family changed forever. Princes William and Harry were suddenly left without a mother, and the world had lost one of the people who they respected the most. After her death, the queen did make a statement that showed that even though they didn’t see eye to eye, she had high regard for Diana. She said that Diana “never lost her capacity to smile or laugh” and that she portrayed “energy and commitment to others.” It looks as if the queen was just as sad to lose Diana as the rest of us, as she was — and still is — someone who will never be forgotten.