Taylor Swift Doesn’t Want to Talk About Her Relationship With Joe Alwyn: Why It ‘Isn’t Up for Discussion’

Taylor Swift has done an amazing job of keeping the details of her relationship with Joe Alwyn under wraps — and intends to maintain some privacy about their relationship, even though fans would love to know more.

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Swift doesn’t want to talk about Alwyn

Though her relationship with Alwyn clearly has provided the singer with song inspiration, she doesn’t plan to talk about him in interviews. Swift makes it absolutely clear why she takes this approach and she has good reasons, something the singer’s fans respect about her.

In an interview with The Guardian, Swift shared how she hopes to maintain boundaries between her personal and professional life, explaining: “I’ve learned that if I do [talk about the relationship], people think it’s up for discussion, and our relationship isn’t up for discussion.”

She continued: “If you and I were having a glass of wine right now, we’d be talking about it — but it’s just that it goes out into the world. That’s where the boundary is, and that’s where my life has become manageable. I really want to keep it feeling manageable.”

Swift’s diary entries are revealing

Swift has included the pages of her diaries from over the years with the deluxe version of her album, included one entry from January 2017 where she talks about their relationship:

“I get all scared about the future because so much has changed in the last year of my life. I mean, this time last year I was living in LA, getting ready for Grammys and now I’m essentially based in London, hiding out trying to protect us from the nasty world that just wants to ruin things. We have been together and no one has found out for 3 months now. I want it to stay that way because I don’t want anything about this to change or become too complicated or intruded upon. But it’s senseless to worry about someday not being happy when I am happy now. OK. Breathe.”

While she won’t openly discuss her relationship, a good deal of her new album, Lover, seems to be a love letter to Alwyn, including the track “I Think He Knows,” in which she sings: “He got that boyish look that I like in a man,” noting he has a “lyrical smile” and “indigo eyes.”

She also sings about her love on the song “Paper Rings,” most specifically: “I like shiny things/ But I’d marry you with paper rings.”

On the last track on the album, titled “Daylight,” she sings: “I once believed love would be burning red, but it’s golden / Like daylight.”

Swift revealed her favorite lyric from Lover

Swift held a release day mini-concert for some of her fans at Sirius XM’s Manhattan headquarters on Friday. She sang “The Archer,” “You Need to Calm Down” and “Daylight,” and revealed her favorite lyric.

She shared lines from the track “Death By a Thousand Cuts” as her favorite: “Our songs, our films, united we stand/Our country, guess it was a lawless land/Quiet my fears with the touch of your hand/Paper cut stains from our paper-thin plans.”

The singer also shared her thoughts on this album, noting, “It’s been a real joy. I really think it’s my favorite. I love this album so much, and I’m so happy you love it too. It’s been a really good couple of days. I’m really having a great time.”