I think I was in second grade when I first realized my hair wasn’t like everyone else’s. It was at the height of the bowl cut’s popularity, and I had finally convinced my mom to let me get one so I could be cool like one of my friends. Unfortunately, despite the barber trying his best, my hair refused to play along, and I never did end up looking like I was wearing a bowl on my head. For a seven year old, it was crushing.
Fast forward to today, and I’m still dealing with crazy hair. I’m grateful it isn’t falling out yet because not every guy in his mid-20s can say the same, but other than that, things still haven’t improved. It’s thick, frizzy, coarse, wavy, and pretty much the worst. Plus, if I’m not careful, my hair does its best Don King impression, which is a look that doesn’t play well outside of the boxing ring. Over the years, however, I’ve learned quite a bit about how to work with and tame my hair.
If you’re trying to figure out how to get a handle on your follicles and have no idea what to do, don’t worry. There’s hope for you beyond simply buzzing it all off.
First, you’re going to have to accept that you can’t chase every haircut trend that comes along. A well-executed haircut that isn’t exactly trendy will always look better than one that’s incredibly popular but poorly executed. Just do a Google image search for “terrible man buns” if you don’t believe me. The key is to find a style that works for your face shape and hair whether it’s currently trendy or not. If you don’t have any ideas, try talking with your barber to see what he recommends. It may require a little experimentation, but even if you try a style that ends up looking terrible, the good news is that hair grows back.
As inconvenient as taking the time to get a haircut can be, you’re also going have to go back fairly regularly. Freshly-cut hair always looks better than it does when it’s grown out, but when yours is naturally a little wild and hard to style, the difference is even more pronounced. If you get a good cut and cut it often, you’ll have a much easier time making sure you look good when you go out.
Having difficult hair also means you’re going to end up journeying into the world of “product.” Getting a good haircut on a regular basis is pretty standard advice for guys who want to look their best, but unfortunately there aren’t any hard and fast rules once you start trying to figure out what products to use. You’re probably not going to like everything you buy, and that’s OK.
The great news is that, at least for now, pomade has become popular again, and no matter what kind of hair you have, if you use enough pomade, it’ll lay down and stay that way. The look will probably fall out of favor with most men in the next few years, but for now, it will tame even the most unruly of hair and leave you looking pretty trendy.
Pomade is, of course, the easy go-to for taming difficult hair, but it’s usually pretty expensive, and there are all kinds of products that may work even better for you. Your barber probably has great suggestions, but if not, you may just have to figure out what’s best for you through trial and error. I got into a jam once and ended up buying L’Oreal Txt It 01 at CVS. While it wasn’t my favorite, it was pretty cheap and still worked well enough that my fiancée gave me a compliment on it.
What works for you is going to depend heavily on what kind of hair you have and what you want the product to accomplish. Once you figure those things out, it’s time to go find what gets you the results you’re looking for. If you find it on the first try, that’s awesome, but if not, don’t give up. You will eventually find something fairly simple that will make you happy. After all, if even my ridiculous hair can be tamed, so can yours.