4 Ways to Increase Your Chances for a Second Date
Is there a scientific formula that will increase your chances of a second date? It seems that there may actually be one. Match.com, with the help of Research Now, recently released its sixth annual ‘Singles in America’ report. Researchers surveyed more than 5,500 single people from all ages, ethnicities, incomes, and from all walks of life to enlighten, share, and shape our perceptions of what it means to be single in America today. They specifically asked people about what happened on their first dates, and whether those dates lead to something more.
Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and Chief Scientific Advisor to Match stated in a press release:
“With this cogent 2015 survey of single Americans, we are uncovering more and more of the shrouded attitudes and behaviors of this massive population.”
“And the coming year is special: it’s political, and today’s singles have vivid opinions about what they will not tolerate in a leader. Moreover, this year we focused on the crucial ‘second date,’ a vital courtship step that has been seriously understudied until now. This meticulous annual scientific study continues to reveal the pulse of the single’s psyche…and our basic human nature.”
As it turns out, there are certain conversation topics, date locations, and even types of cuisine that can have a significant impact on how well your date goes and whether you get that second date. We’re giving you pearls here guys, so try and work in as many of these as you can into your next first date with a potential love interest. You may be very surprised to learn that they work, and may even be able to joke about it during your second date. Here are 4 things the study has found that will increase your chances for a second date.
1. Look for love on the Internet
Yes — that’s right. According to the survey, couples who meet online are 78% more likely to make it to the second date than those who meet through mutual friends. So much for putting yourself out there IRL. The reason for this may be that people who use online dating are much more serious about finding a partner or settling down. When you meet someone on a whim when you’re out and about, it might be a little tougher to decipher what they’re really looking for. Online dating seems to cut through all the guess work and uncertainty.
Though it does take some effort to use most dating sites — not hookup apps — making the investment can really pay off.
2. Go for dinner, and make it sushi
Taking your date to dinner sounds wildly unimaginative, but in fact the study finds that it doubles your odds of seeing them again, compared to more creative date ideas like taking them to an amusement park or museum. Dinner is ideal because it helps you get to know each other: You’re focused on having a conversation rather than being distracted by an activity. Sitting across from them and having a conversation helps to better gauge the kind of person they are and what their passions are, and consequently, whether you two are compatible.
What’s more, if you want to really boost your odds for a second date, go to a nice restaurant and go for sushi. People who went on a date at a sushi restaurant were 170% more likely to go on a second date than those people who went for American cuisine, says the study. There may be a solid connection as to why sushi dates are so successful: Ordering fatty fish like salmon or tuna, which both contain omega-3’s, can up your circulation and sexual alertness, plus seaweed has iodine and it can trigger testosterone as well as your sex drive. Add wasabi to the mix and you can increase your heart rate. That said, some of these physiological changes can make you more excited during the date. Another possible reason is that people tend to share larger sushi dishes and this can create a bond or connection with your date.
Other restaurant tips that help lock in a second date: Skip the wine or beer and order a cocktail, as this will increase your chances for a second date by 137%.
3. Have a political discussion
Chances are you’ve probably heard the opposite and that it can be as touchy a subject as religion, especially if one party is very passionate. In short, there’s the potential that this could be a disastrous conversation. Not so though, according to the study, it actually boosts your chances of a second date by 91%. Lucky for you, there is so much to talk about this presidential election season. Being able to speak about politics may show your intelligence, your ability to be tolerant and even flexible when agreeing or respectfully disagreeing. These are all desirable qualities to have in a mate.
Just be aware though: No matter what your opinion is, whether it’s ideological or about a specific candidate, be respectful.
4. The date should be long enough, but not too long
It’s pretty safe to say that the longer the date, the better, but that truth doesn’t seem to hold past a certain amount of time. Your odds for a second date start to dwindle if the first date lasts for more than 2 hours and 15 minutes, according to the Match data. Past that point, you may have exhausted the conversation or it may take more effort for the discussion. So plan a shorter dinner with a drink and keep the mystery by leaving some things to the second date.
So there you have it gents, this is your year to increase your odds and be a successful dater. You can thank Trump later.