Being in love is a feeling like no other; it adds layers and colors to your life, and most importantly, it fulfills you and makes you happy. But falling in love is the easy part, maintaining it and keeping it alive is a completely different story. It takes work, and I’m not talking about the bad kind of tedious work. It takes showing you care, and you’ll get those feelings back in return, in whatever form you’re looking for. Show your significant other you care, because that is what being in a relationship is all about.
It’s true that after being with someone for a while, showing you care on a regular basis can be challenging, but it’s important to take care of the person you love the most and show appreciation for their love. Guys, it’s incredibly special and you know it. Try and squeeze in one of these at least once a week:
1. Do it, don’t say it
Common wisdom will always ring true: “Actions speak louder than words.” In fact, I cannot believe words and promises without action. You say you love her, so prove it. If you say you’re going to do something for her, make sure you mean it and then follow through. Life is inundated with responsibilities but even if it’s something small, make time to do it. This common wisdom rings true: “It’s the little things that count.”
2. Pick your battles
You and your partner will not agree on everything, because it’s almost impossible. This goes along with accepting your S.O. for who they are and the way they think. Before you launch into a full-on argument with your partner, begin a conversation calmly to get to the bottom of things. Launching into an automatic rage is code for not caring and being selfish. If you find yourself on the verge of an argument, stop, and think about if it’s worth getting into or not. Remember, when you care about someone, you want to try and resolve any issues as calmly and collectively as possible.
3. Say you’re sorry
Even if you’re not wrong. Sounds crazy, right? Why would anyone apologize if they’re not wrong? It depends on your point of view. Is being “right” more important than your partner’s feelings? Do you need to prove your point that badly? Apologizing shows you care about them more than winning a silly argument. Remember, apologies are simple and free and completely within your realm of control. Again, pick your battles carefully.
4. Make every morning count
If you can’t squeeze in a quick morning sex sesh before work, make sure to find another way to connect with your partner before you get out of bed in the morning. Whether it’s sneaking a quick kiss, cuddling, telling your special someone you love them, or just glancing at them lovingly — take a moment to show them how much you care.
5. Do something unexpected
This can be anything. From whisking your partner away on a surprise vacation, going to the movies, cooking dinner (unplanned), or surprising your S.O. with flowers, it’s the unexpected things that really show you care. It doesn’t have to involve spending lots of money, either. A surprise shows you care, and spontaneity is key.
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