It’s happening. You’ve reached the age where it’s acceptable for you to get married. Maybe you haven’t considered the idea yet, but if Facebook and the influx of wedding invitations are any indication, your friends sure have. It’s weird and scary, mostly because you’re just starting to realize your adulthood.
Although interestingly enough, the median age for a first marriage in the U.S. (even though there are discrepancies in marrying age in each state) is still much higher than it has been, compared to previous generations; most millennials don’t tie the knot until they’re in their late 20s and early 30s. According to the U.S. Census, the oldest-marrying states are New York (28.8 years old for women, 30.3 years old for men), Massachusetts (28.8 years old for women, 30.1 years old for men), and Rhode Island (28.5 years old for women, 30.2 years old for men).
Even with many people marrying at a later age, it may still come as a shock when your friends begin settling down. If you’ve got a lot of buddies about to tie the knot, you’ll want to read this list. Here, we break down five things that happen when your friends start getting hitched.
1. You realize you’ve officially become an adult
This can be one of the scariest sentences to utter aloud. There is no exact time that this happens, nor is there a specific age that it occurs. It’s more like a feeling when those around you are not acting like kids anymore. They are taking on more responsibility, and suddenly the idea of being out until four in the morning with your friends is no longer a possibility, because they can’t. You’re getting old(er).
2. It will never be like it used to be
… And that’s OK. When your buddies get married, your friendships will change because their priorities, as well as their responsibilities, will change. They are now more of a “we” as opposed to an “I.” Another thing you may begin to realize is that their spouses have taken your place as their new best friends, which is the way it’s supposed to be.
3. The pressure begins
First, you’ll start to get hints from your buddies that married life is not so bad after all. You — and your single friends — may start to see how blissed-out some of your married friends are. You may even consider online dating if you haven’t tried it. With one-third of U.S. marriages originating from online dating, your chances of soon-to-be marital bliss may not be that far off.
You might also find that your buddies’ wives start setting you up with their girl friends. According to a 2,373-person survey conducted by Mic, a whopping 39% of respondents said that they met their significant others “through friends in common.” Your married friends do want to see you happy, after all.
4. You’ll spend more time alone
When your friends are coupled up, they will spend more of their free time with their spouses. This just means that you’ll all have to put in extra effort to have some “man time” together like the good ‘ol days. There is nothing wrong with having some alone time; it’s actually a great way to get to know yourself better. A happier, more actualized you will have a great shot at attracting the partner of your dreams.
5. You may start to assess your finances
There’s nothing like going to a wedding and witnessing your friends getting married to figure out that, financially speaking, you are not ready to get married. Especially when you friends divulge the cost of their weddings, which costs about $26,444 on average (in the United States), with the range falling between $19,833 and $33,055. This is all without factoring the cost of the honeymoon. If you’re still stuck eating ramen noodles, this is a clear indication you might not be financially prepared to tie the knot.