6 Signs That a Woman is Not Interested in You
You’re a man who knows what he wants, and that’s an awesome trait to have. It means you have the courage and the gentlemanly prowess to pursue a woman who you’re interested in. Unfortunately, despite your best efforts, there will be times when someone is just not that interested in you. We know this can be hard to accept, and your denial might be blinding you to the signs that a woman is just not feeling it. Here are six signs that she’s just not that into you.
1. You’re doing all the work
If you’ve gotten past the second date and you have some kind of rapport with her but you’re still doing all the heavy lifting, tread carefully. If you’re always calling and she doesn’t return your phone calls or texts, then she may be avoiding you, says Ask Men. On the other hand, if she says she’s not avoiding you, that could be just as bad — it means you’re not on her mind and she simply forgot. Whichever way you slice it, she has less invested in whatever your situation is and doesn’t care enough to want to be in your company.
As a general rule, Ask Men says, if she doesn’t return your first call, call again because she may be playing hard-to-get. If she doesn’t return that second call, then she’s just not that into you. Take that as a sign that it’s time to move on.
2. She doesn’t want to make the time for you
Everyone is busy. But if the woman you’re dating is constantly missing in action, then it might be time to break it off. “When a woman is interested in a man, she makes time for him,” says Brooke Carsner, owner of Intuitive Matchmaking, to Men’s Fitness. “When there is always some other person, some event, some commitment that is taking up more of her time, that is a clear indication that you are not as high on her priority list.” It’s always possible to make time for the ones you care about, despite matters that need immediate attention.
3. She doesn’t laugh at the jokes you crack
One of the most important aspects to flirting with a woman is when you’re able to get some laughs out of her. It means she’s comfortable and interested enough in listening to what you have to say. However, if she’s consistently stone-faced when you’re cracking jokes, there are two very important conclusions you can make: First, she doesn’t like your sense of humor and you’re unable to engage with her, and second, she doesn’t like you enough to even bother to fake it. Ask Men points out that the laughter part of this is crucial because laughing at your jokes doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with whether she finds them funny or not; rather, it can signal that she’s not interested in flirting and you haven’t maintained her interest.
4. Her ex is still present
Red flag alert — abort mission, we repeat, abort mission. If your new love interest has opened up the ex-file and it’s pouring out of her or she repeatedly mentions his name, “This means that she has not grieved him, and you are in danger of being the rebound boyfriend,” says Todd Creager, a licensed marriage and family therapist to Men’s Fitness. “She is using you to escape her pain, rather than choosing you out of desire.” Let’s be real here: While sharing a brief history with each other about your most recent relationships is acceptable, if it’s going beyond that, you may want to step away from her for now.
5. She consistenly cancels at the last minute
If you planned a date and she cancels at the last minute — we’re talking like you have one foot out the door on the way to meet her — it means she’s not sure about you or is not as into you as you are her. Although it’s awful, it’s better to know sooner rather than later. And while canceling does happen and is not the reason to cut and run, if she does this more than once, you may want to lose her number.
6. She doesn’t make eye contact with you
Ouch. This one hurts a lot because we live by the aphorism that the eyes are the windows to the soul. If a woman won’t make eye contact, she probably doesn’t want to let you see anything about her. If she’s avoiding looking at you, she could be hiding something or not want to admit that she’s just not into you. On your end, you’re unable to gauge how she’s feeling, and in the most general sense, if someone can’t look you in the eye, you won’t be able to connect with them or fully express yourself.