Hearts around America broke in 2017 when celebrity super couple Anna Faris and Chris Pratt announced their separation. Not only are the actors beloved individuals with many adoring fans, but a lot of people loved them as a couple. And quite a few people were shocked and confused by the announcement since they’d always seemed so perfect together.
Faris and Pratt may have seemed like the definition of a healthy relationship on Instagram, but recently Faris admitted that wasn’t the case. It seems that some of the happy photos we loved to look at were fake.
The ‘perfect family’ image was intentionally cultivated
In an interview with Dax Shepard for his Armchair Expert podcast, Faris confessed, “We intentionally cultivated the idea of like, ‘Look at this beautiful family,’” although she added that “there were so many moments that were like that.” Since social media sites are known for only showing the good in people’s lives, it’s safe to assume many celebrities are just like the rest of us — they only want the public to see the highlight reel.
Next: The positive comments made her feel good.
Creating the perfect images felt rewarding
Faris also said that being idolized by so many for her “perfect” relationship felt good at the time.
“It was rewarding for a while,” she said on the podcast. “It was like, ‘People seem to think we got all this sh*t all right.’” People clearly bought the act since the public was shocked when the couple announced their split. In fact, although they are now divorced, there were rumors as recently as last fall that they were in couples’ counseling and trying to save their marriage.
Next: Perhaps the public should have been more concerned about all the happy photos.
Oversharing is actually a sign of insecurity
According to the results of a recent study, couples who post a lot about their relationship may not be as happy as they look. The study found that the more insecure people were in their relationship, the more they posted on social media. If you’ve ever known a couple who posts incessantly on Facebook for months about their love only to break up seemingly out of nowhere, you know the study results are probably accurate.
Next: Even couples who truly are happy should be cautious about posting.
Beware the overshare
Even if you’re truly happy in your relationship, it’s still best to be wary about oversharing online. If you get too wrapped up in showing off your love life to the world, you run the risk of compromising your authenticity.
“Not every picture needs to be uploaded,” said relationship coach Clayton Olson. “It’s a slippery slope into relying on external validation to prove to yourself that your relationship is good enough.” This related to what Faris said about the comments on all her happy photos feeling rewarding.
Next: Faris was also quick to call out the inauthenticity of social media.
It doesn’t show the everyday bumps
We all know most people only post their best photos and quips on social media. As Faris put it, “But like anything on social media, you don’t post, ‘Where the f**k is the toilet paper?’ or whatever. I think it’s a very hard forum to be genuine, and I think it does a disservice to people to not be.”
She has a point. If you complain too much or post too much negative content, people get annoyed, so everyone ends up seeing the “highlight reel.”
Next: Faris and Pratt have both admitted the split has been tough.
Despite the seemingly amicable nature of their split, both Faris and Pratt have said it hasn’t been easy. Pratt told Entertainment Weekly recently that “divorce sucks,” but he added that he and Faris both love their son and were finding a way to navigate things while remaining friends.
Faris was a bit more cryptic the first time she spoke about the divorce, telling a caller on her podcast, “Life is too short to be in relationships where you feel this isn’t fully right or somebody doesn’t have your back, or somebody doesn’t fully value you. Don’t be afraid to feel your independence if things aren’t right.”
Next: This story does have a somewhat happy ending.
Faris and Pratt are in a really good place
Both Faris and Pratt insist they’re in a very good place now, working on being friends and co-parenting their son, Jack. Their divorce was painful for both of them, but they are both moving on.
“We had an unbelievable marriage, and we have a great friendship now,” Faris said recently. “And we love our son to death, and I’m really proud of that.”
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