Signs You’re in a Horribly Unhealthy Relationship

Love has the power to change and transform you. On the other hand, some relationships have the power to get you off track and actually bring you down both physically and mentally. While you may imagine love to be full of inside jokes, romantic dates, and blissful eye gazing, certain relationships can play on your weaknesses and actually have the power to make you unhappier and unhealthier than you were before. Here’s how to know if things aren’t working out.

You have different fitness goals

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Having different fitness goals may not be a good thing. | iStock.com

Research confirms that couples who exercise together stay together longer and remain on track with their fitness goals longer than those who exercise alone. Exercising together can make partners feel closer and can increase a woman’s sex drive, all while helping you burn more calories and build muscle. What’s not to like? But when you’re about to head to the gym and your partner calls from the couch asking if you want to order takeout and snuggle in for a movie, it can be tempting to give up on your fitness routine.

Being on different levels when it comes to your physical fitness may lead one of you to give up your personal workout routine for the other person’s.

Incompatible drinking habits

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Are your drinking habits similar? | iStock.com

Does your partner always want to stay in while you’re always raring to go out? Do you argue over how much money one of you spends at the bar? If so, you and your partner may have different drinking habits. The Norwegian Institute of Public Health studied 20,000 couples in Norway and discovered that couples that consumed alcohol in similar quantities were less likely to divorce than couples in which one person drank more than the other. Being on the same page when it comes to the amount you go out and drink could be the key to a successful relationship.

There’s a lack of trust

Overhead young romantic couple hugging.

Trust is important. | iStock.com

Trust is one of the most, if not the most, important part of a healthy working relationship. In fact, trust is almost more important than love, and should be one of the first factors you take into consideration when choosing a partner. If you find yourself constantly feeling like your significant other is lying or hiding something from you, then trust is lacking too much for you to be in a healthy relationship.

Conflicts are full of criticism

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You should never have to criticize your partner. | iStock.com

It’s normal to argue over the dishes or whose turn it is to take out the trash, but what can break a relationship is the way you speak to each other. If you constantly find yourself attacking your partner’s character or notice your partner doing the same to you, you may be in a cycle of criticism and contempt. When this happens, it literally chips away at the person you love and slowly breaks down the relationship.

A lacking sex life

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A healthy sex life is important. | iStock.com

Sex is an important part of any relationship. It has the power to connect you and your partner in the most intimate of ways and provides a slew of added benefits including better self-esteem, stress release, and improved sleep. Couples are happiest when they have sex as often as they want to without feeling pressured to meet a certain weekly quota that makes them feel “normal.” But if you feel like you’re not having enough sex and your partner feels satisfied, you’ll need to open up the conversation to determine a solution that leaves you both happy and fulfilled.

 Fights never strike a balance

couple in a unhealthy relationship

Your fights shouldn’t be explosive every time. | iStock.com

It’s natural for you and your partner to disagree, hurt each other’s feelings, and argue. Expressing big emotions like anger and sadness shows that you are being open and vulnerable with each other. But relationships that are full of drama, especially when violence, temper tantrums, name calling, and swearing are involved are also unhealthy. It is important to express yourself and it’s natural to feel angry or hurt toward your partner, but you also need to remain in control.

You long for alone time

couple laughing and about to kiss

Spend time together, but also plan for time apart. | Monkeybusinessimages/iStock/Getty Images

Do you find yourself wishing your partner would go away so you can be by yourself — even if the two of you aren’t fighting? Sure, you don’t have to be with your significant other all hours of every day to be happy. But if you cherish the time you spend by yourself more than the time you spend with your partner, it could be a sign that your relationship has wandered into unhealthy territory.

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