Not Every Celebrity Relationship Ends in Disaster: Hollywood Couples Reveal What Makes Their Love Last

It’s no secret that celebrity relationships don’t have the best reputation. Known for being rather volatile and sometimes ending in disaster, when we see celebrity unions that actually stand the test of time, it’s pretty heartwarming.

But what makes these love affairs last? Some famous couples have spoken out about what they believe is the key, and some of their answers might surprise you.

Portia De Rossi and Ellen DeGeneres

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi pose with their dogs

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi have been happy together for years. | Ellen DeGeneres via Instagram

This dynamic duo fell in love in 2004 and got married in 2008, and they haven’t stopped saying kind things about each other ever since. Both admit they felt an instant connection the first time they met, and they say that being each other’s best friend and biggest fan is the secret to their healthy relationship.

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David and Victoria Beckham

David Beckham and British designer Victoria Beckham attend the wedding service for Britain's Prince William and Kate Middleton

The Beckhams are still very much in love. | ADRIAN DENNIS/AFP/Getty Images

This gorgeous couple got together 18 years ago, and one marriage and four children later, they’re still going strong. The pair says that being mutually supportive of each other — which sometimes means taking turns spending time at home with the kids while the other is off working — is essential to their partnership.

Next: These two stars have been together for nearly 30 years.

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson walk a red carpet

Hanks and Wilson have been together for decades. | Vittorio Zunino Celotto/Getty Images

Tom Hanks is one of America’s most beloved actors, and it’s clear he and his wife, actress Rita Wilson, are still fond of each other after nearly three decades together. Hanks credits a “concrete connection” as the reason their love lasts, once telling Oprah that “no matter what, we’ll be with each other — and we’ll get through it.”

Next: Despite rumors of trouble in paradise and even divorce, this couple is still going strong.

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have survived decades of rumors. | Adrian Sanchez-Gonzalez/AFP/Getty Images

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith have been together since 1995 and married since 1997. While their marriage has been plagued with rumors of problems and looming divorce, but both swear they have never even come close to giving up.

Smith says the secret to their marriage is the fact that they work on themselves individually before working on themselves as a couple. “We’re all about that personal growth,” he told ET.

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Freddie Prinze, Jr. and Sarah Michelle Gellar

Sarah Michelle Gellar with Freddie Prinze Jr. and their kids making food in the kitchen

Sarah Michelle Gellar, Freddie Prinze Jr., and their kids | Sarah Michelle Gellar via Instagram

This sweet couple has stayed mostly out of the spotlight, despite their high profile careers. And when they’re asked about the relationship, neither of them pull any punches. In 2001, Howard Stern bet Prinze, Jr. that his marriage wouldn’t last 10 years, but it has (and then some).

“I mean, it’s work. You have to work at anything. It’s any relationship in your life. You have to nurture it and take time with it,” Gellar said in an interview with MSN’s Wonderwall.

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Tim McGraw and Faith Hill

Tim McGraw and Faith Hill

Tim McGraw and Faith Hill | Tommaso Boddi/AFP/Getty Images

This darling duo tied the knot in 1996 and share three grown daughters, and they appear to be just as in love as the day they walked down the aisle. When asked about their happy union, the two have a lot of cute quips.

“In the car, I drive, and in the relationship, she drives,” McGraw has said, adding that the two make decisions differently but always consult each other in the process. They also claim that each of them “tolerates a lot” from the other.

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Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

Neil Patrick Harris Disney

Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka are the parents of twins. | Paul Hiffmeyer/Disney via Getty Images

If you follow Neil Patrick Harris on Instagram, you’ve seen photos of his adorable family, husband David Burtka and twins, which the couple welcomed through a surrogate in 2010. And, in fact, the couple says their children are one of the reasons their bond is so strong.

“Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That made me re-fall in love with him,” Harris has said, adding that figuring out ways to keep the love alive is essential in any marriage.

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Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick

Kyra Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon

Kyra Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon | Dave Kotinsky/Getty Images

A 30-year marriage is impressive for any couple, especially a celebrity duo like this one. Kyra Sedwick has some great advice, stating that security makes a big difference.

“Both of us knew this was forever and we were going to work it out no matter what happens, so when we fight, it’s not so scary,” she said in an interview with Redbook. “You can’t be honest with someone if you think they are going to leave.”

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Viola Davis and Julius Tennon

Julius Tennon and Viola Davis

Julius Tennon and Viola Davis renewed their vows in 2016. | Kevin Winter/Getty Images for Turner

Less than a month after Viola Davis prayed for her husband at her friend’s suggestion, she met Julius Tennon. Their advice is to celebrate love whenever you can — 13 years after tying the knot, they renewed their vows on Valentine’s Day in 2016.

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Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos

Kelly Ripa

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos have been together for over 20 years | Robin Marchant/Getty Images

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos have been married since 1996, and Ripa’s advice is simple: Don’t give up after one fight. She says she has seen a lot of couples give up too easily and to “just let it marinate a little bit” before trying to work things out.

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Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn

Actors Oliver Hudson, Kurt Russell, Goldie Hawn, Kate Hudson, Wyatt Russell, and five small children on a blue carpet laughing and posing

Kurt Russell, Goldie Hawn, Kate Hudson, and family. | Alberto E. Rodriguez/Getty Images

Happily coupled for 35 years, Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn have famously decided to forego marriage entirely. Hawn claims the secret to their lasting love is their independence and recognizing that the grass isn’t greener on the other side.

“Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex. If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done. Because the grass isn’t always greener,” Hawn told People Magazine.

Next: This famous actor credits finding the right partner with his luck in love.

Denzel and Pauletta Washington

Denzel Washington is in a black suit with Pauletta who is in a red dress.

Denzel and Pauletta Washington have been together 35 years. | Angela Weiss/AFP/Getty Images

Denzel and Pauletta Washington have been a team for 35 years, and he claims that she’s the reason they’ve lasted. “I got a good woman,” he said. “That’s the first thing.”

Paulette’s advice is a little more practical. “Nothing is magic,” she says. “It’s just work.”

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Cindy Crawford and Rande Gerber

Kaia Gerber, Presley Gerber, Cindy Crawford and Rande Gerber pose together on the red carpet.

(L-R) Kaia Gerber, Presley Gerber, Cindy Crawford and Rande Gerber | Neilson Barnard/Getty Images

Cindy Crawford may joke that “tequila” is the reason she’s been happily committed to Rande Gerber for nearly two decades, but in reality, both credit their lasting friendship as the secret to their union. The two were friends first and have stayed friends, which really helps keep their bond strong.

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Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Brad Hall

Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Brad Hall

Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Brad Hall met before stardom. | Alberto E. Rodriguez/Getty Images

Julia Louis-Dreyfus met her future husband while they were both students at Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois, before they starred on SNL together. Although they are different in many ways, they both say they knew almost right away that it was meant to be.

As for the secret to their lasting marriage, Louis-Dreyfus told Jay Leno in 2012 that she simply “found the right guy.”

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Jamie Lee Curtis and Christopher Guest

Jamie Lee-Curtis is resting her head on Christopher Guest's shoulder.

Jamie Lee-Curtis and Christopher Guest | Carlo Allegri/Getty Images

Jamie Lee Curtis and Christopher Guest have been married since 1984, raising two children together and maintaining successful careers. Curtis has some pretty straightforward advice for remaining married: Don’t get divorced.

“It’s a fascinating thing,” she told Today. “I could write a book on marriage called Don’t Leave.”

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