How to Find Balance in Your Life
When you lead a balanced life, you feel happy and wonderful. Life moves at a steady pace, and you’re in control. A balanced life may have its stresses, but it’s nothing you can’t handle. A well-balanced person can focus their attention on achieving goals and moving forward with life in a meaningful way.
Despite how simplistic it may sound, achieving balance is an elusive concept. Times of transition can make you susceptible to feeling off-balance. Transition, good or bad, causes you to seek solace in many different ways. There are always things you cannot control, but changing your attitude and finding positive, healthful outlets is a great place to begin.
“Work-life balance to me is a state of mind where you feel like you have energy and enthusiasm for the vents of your personal and professional life,” says Vicki Hess, RN, a consultant, speaker, and author of Shift to Professional Paradise. “I don’t think of ‘balance’ as being a set of equal scales – but more a feeling of being content with the distribution of energy.”
The first step is identifying the imbalance in your life and deciding whether or not you’re willing to change your routine, your surroundings, or your state of mind in order to regain balance. Changing negative patterns in your life is hard but beneficial. Identifying this imbalance isn’t difficult, but finding a solution to create peace in places of strife can be a challenge. In this day and age, everyone is being pulled in so many different directions it can be hard to know where to begin. Determine what is important to you when it comes to your lifestyle, your morals, and your goals.
When we acknowledge what is out-of-whack in our lives, we are admitting we need a change. Do you surround yourself with toxic people? Are you 30 pounds overweight and have a hard time cutting back on food? Do you have so little motivation at work that you’re stuck in a rut? Are you going through a tough relationship? Whatever the case may be, we must decide what to remove, or what to regain (like confidence, motivation), to make the leap.
According to Psychology Today, insecurely attached people pour cold water on their happiness by allowing positive emotions to drift into negative thoughts. A lot of times, we feel imbalanced because our negative emotions take over. Sometimes, fear and sadness trump the good things in life. Learn how to take care of yourself and your emotions when trying to achieve balance.
Some tips to master on your journey to finding balance:
- Learn how to say no
- Avoid toxic people (and toxic foods)
- Spend time by yourself (and treat yourself)
- Don’t compare yourself to others
- Call an old friend to get lunch
- Listen to someone
- Write down things you love about yourself, and remind yourself daily
- Step outside of your comfort zone
- Tell yourself everything will work out
If your life is off-balance, view it as an opportunity to improve. Sometimes you have to lose your balance in order to regain it. Losing balance isn’t a weakness or a mistake, but instead is an exciting opportunity to find it in a new way. One crucial aspect is to stop spending time and energy on things that don’t serve you. Devote more time to doing what you love.
“Achieving balance, then, in my view, ultimately rests on having courage: the courage to make difficult choices; to exclude other possibilities in order to choose the one that suits you best; to let go of fearing the disapproval or disappointment of others,” writes Alex Lickerman, MD, in Psychology Today. Lickerman notes when our lives are out of balance, we must have the courage to regain it.