Knowing what to get for your significant other can be a daunting task. Are you saying the right thing with your gift of choice? Or are you way off the mark… yet again? If you’re notoriously known for being totally clueless when it comes to gift-giving, then please, heed caution and read on.
Think back to the year you got your significant other an expensive piece of jewelry. Was your thoughtful gift immediately followed by his or her desire to plan your wedding, even though you’d only been dating for a few months? Or worse yet, what about the time you were caught in a gift-tossing crossfire because you gave your partner of three years courtside tickets to your favorite basketball game, even though your S.O. made it perfectly clear he or she hates basketball?
To ensure you don’t let another year slip by without giving some time and thought to your present-picking process, we connected with Damona Hoffman, television personality and online dating and relationship expert, for tips on picking out the perfect gift for your partner.
For a new relationship
Regardless of how far along you are in a relationship, from benign dating to nearly boyfriend/girlfriend status, you should get your partner something for the holidays — and his or her birthday. You don’t have to overthink this gift, nor do you need to spend a lot of money on it.
All relationships, though, even new ones, do warrant some sort of acknowledgment on momentous occasions. Definitely avoid jewelry, trips, or other big ticket items. As noted above, it’s better to get something that shows you’ve been listening to what they like, rather than something that makes a promise about how things are progressing. So, yes to the new book from their favorite author — no to an iPad mini.
For the long-time partner
Sometimes your partner can feel taken for granted after a few months or years, so any particularly expected gift-giving time is a chance to remind him or her of how special they are. Most ladies love jewelry. If you’re not ready to pop the question (which Hoffman does not typically recommend doing during the holidays), try a lovely necklace instead. The box will not be misleading. There’s nothing worse than thinking you’re getting an engagement ring and ending up with a pair of earrings.
For your spouse
Refer to the previous mention of your partner feeling taken for granted — now double that if you’re married and triple that if you have kids. What most people with a family and busy schedule value most is free time and peace and quiet. Try splurging on a trip to the spa or even a romantic getaway for just the two of you. Once your partner realizes the amount of time and thought that went into this, he or she will probably make it worth your headache of having made the plans once the spa visit or trip for two is underway.