Lately you’ve been spending a lot of time with your new guy friend and it suddenly hits you like a ton of bricks — you would like to have more than just a friendship with him.
After all, you two already do everything together. You can talk for hours and not notice the time go by. You love exploring museums and watching cheesy TV shows together. You have similar aspirations for the future and respect each other. You’re there for each other during the tough times. You’ve shared a lot and you want to share more.
But you’re not sure if he feels the same way about you. Maybe he’s simply being nice and courteous? You don’t want to make the wrong assumption and end up falling flat on your face.
Have no worries. We’ve all been there. The good news is that there are tell-tale signs that can help you know for sure whether a guy likes you as more than just a friend. Follow this guide and you’ll have the answers to all your burning questions.
Here are 10 signs that will help you know if a guy likes you.
1. He makes eye contact
They say the eyes are the window to the soul. When a guy likes you he’ll want to know the real you and one way he’ll do this is by making direct eye contact. Eye contact lets you know that he not only enjoys looking at you, but that he wants to look deeper, beyond the physical, and he’s inviting you to do the same with him. So go for it! Also, if you’re really observant, take a look at his pupils — if they dilate it’s another indicator that he likes you.
2. He asks questions about past relationships
Beyond asking whether you are currently dating anyone, a guy who’s interested in you will also ask questions about past relationships. Why? Because he wants to understand you better. He wants to know your likes and dislikes when it comes to relationships. It also helps both of you understand where things went right (or wrong) in your past relationships and this becomes a great learning opportunity. The more concern he shows about past relationships, the more he likes you. He simply wants to get as much information as possible so that you two can build a better and more solid relationship.
3. He’s curious about your family
Being in a relationship means that at some point, you have to meet each other’s family’s. And who you are today is also shaped by your family. So if a guy is asking about your family, it’s because he wants to learn about the people you care about and the values they uphold. So be happy when he asks you about your family. In his mind, he’s preparing for the day when he’ll have to meet them and answer the 1001 questions that they’ll likely fire at him.
4. He spends hours talking to you
If a guy spends a lot of time talking with you, be it on the phone or in person, it means he really enjoys your company. He wants to be in your company for as long as possible and he finds your conversations to be interesting, challenging, and fulfilling. So have no doubt that if you two talk for hours without him rushing to get off the phone or to go home, you’ve got a connection that goes beyond simple friendship.
5. He leans in and/or faces you during a conversation
Always look out for body language. The more a guy likes you, the more his body naturally opens up to you. When you’re talking try to notice if he leans in toward you. It doesn’t matter whether you two are facing each other or you’re side by side. His body will naturally sway in your direction when he likes you. This body language indicates that he’s giving you his full attention. He doesn’t want anything to distract or interrupt your interaction because he’s enjoying your company to the fullest.
6. He’s protective of you and your needs
When you’re out walking, does he protect you from an approaching cyclist on the sidewalk? Does he tell you to watch out for a water puddle? Can you count on him to give you a hug when you’ve got the blues? All of these gestures are a sign that your safety and comfort are a priority for him. He definitely cares for you and doesn’t hesitate to show it.
7. He’s there when you need him
When you’re having a rough day and he’s busy, does he still find a way to carve time out so you can talk on the phone or meet in person? Does he give you helpful advice when you’re dealing with a crisis? That’s a clear sign that he cares about your well-being and is really into you. Your happiness matters and he’s willing to do everything he can to help you in your time of need.
8. He’s playful and teases you
Teasing is a sign of affection and it also shows a degree of comfort and familiarity. A guy will only tease someone that he likes. So if your special someone teases you a lot or mimics you in an attempt to make you smile, then he’s showing his affection for you.
9. He remembers special days
When a guy likes you, he’ll remember and celebrate all dates that are important to you. It could be planning something special for your birthday, or texting you words of encouragement right before a job interview. Regardless of whether the gesture is lavish or not, the fact that he takes the time to remember important dates should tell you he really likes you.
10. He can’t wait to tell you about his day
If you’re the first person he texts to share a silly joke, to share news of his buddy’s engagement, or news of a family member being hospitalized, then he’s into you. Guys generally rush to share news about their life only with people that are important to them. So, count yourself among that VIP list if you’re always the first to get breaking news updates from him.