New Survey Reveals These Online Dating Deal Breakers
If you’ve been unlucky in the love department, you may be considering taking your search online. There are now more than 1,500 dating websites to choose from. Why are more of looking for love online? ConsumerAffairs Content Manager Ryan Daly says it’s not only about convenience but also weeding out the bad apples.
“This sounds really unromantic, but I think it’s an extension of consumer behavior, something we’re pretty familiar with here at ConsumerAffairs — with cars, for instance, people got tired of going home with lemons, so they started doing extensive online research and reading reviews before they purchased. Online dating is kind of the same way, being able to look through people’s profile’s and talk with them online before you commit to a date helps you weed out the lemons,” Daly told The Cheat Sheet.
If it’s been a while since you’ve dipped a toe in the dating pool, you may be wondering what others consider a deal breaker and which behaviors some daters are willing to let slide. A recent ConsumerAffairs survey polled more than 400 online daters to get a better idea of their thoughts on the matter. Surprisingly, factors that used to be considered an absolute deal breaker are less taboo. One of the most surprising findings: 32% of men and 23% of women say they are willing to get romantically involved with someone who is already hitched. Here are more results from the Consumer Affairs survey. You might want to sit down for this.
Looks that kill?
Today’s online daters are quite tolerant. Among the issues they would let slide are previous arrests, disorderly conduct, and even murder. Roughly 30% of women said they would simply ask their date to explain the circumstances if they had been arrested for marijuana possession. Approximately 15% of men would look the other way if their date had a history of disorderly conduct. About 2% of women and 3% of men said they would still consider a potential date with someone who had killed someone. Roughly 8% of women and 14% of men would be a little more hesitant, but would still consider a candlelit date with a killer after giving him or her a chance to explain the circumstances. A possible explanation: maybe they were drop-dead gorgeous.
Relaxing in your birthday suit
Public nudity is also not a problem for some online daters. The poll found that 6% of women and 15% of men thought it was perfectly fine to go for an evening stroll in nothing but your socks and sandals. Roughly 26% of women and 31% of men said they would exercise a little more caution and first ask their date to explain why they were giving a not-so-private peep show.
Ordering a background check
Although dating online is a quick and convenient way to meet potential loves, there are some drawbacks. One of the primary concerns of digital daters is that they will come across someone who lies about their identity or the details of their life. In order to hedge against this possibility, some daters are taking matters into their own hands and running a background check. Checking a date’s background is becoming more popular because there may be serious issues that are not immediately evident due to the nature of online dating. It’s easy to pretend to be someone else by posting fake pictures and managing false social media accounts.
“You run the risk of wasting time with people who misrepresent themselves on their profile or turn out to be someone different than you thought they’d be. I think that’s why I would personally absolutely advocate using a background check service if you plan on doing a lot of online dating. It’s just a small assurance do you don’t end up finding out someone who seemed like a nice person is a total creep,” said Daly.
Go here for the rest of the survey results.
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