Sex is great, but it can get boring if you don’t put some effort into it. If you’ve fallen into a dull routine, it’s time to put some spice back into your lovemaking. By setting aside some time and getting a little creative, you can get things so steamy you won’t be able to wait to get home after work.
Therapist Tina B. Tessina said one of the keys to better sex is to make it fun. She advises getting over your insecurities and learning to laugh about those not-so-perfect moments. “I believe it is possible, perhaps even necessary, to have sex in a healthy, responsible manner and still be light-hearted about it. Experts on healing now say that laughter and humor, hope and happiness are an important part of any healing process. What would happen if we injected some of that healing humor and fun into our sexual lives?” Tessina told The Cheat Sheet.
Sex is not only a great way to have fun with your partner but also a great form of exercise. If you need to get your blood flowing, add sex to your daily routine. “No matter what the old wives’ tales say about it, there’s no reason not to have sex in long-term relationships. Sex will not only keep your love energized, it’s also fun exercise, a great stress-releaser, and aerobic: It raises your heart rate and your respiration — and you don’t even notice you’re working hard,” said Tessina.
Sex should be fun and easy. Here are some of Tessina’s tips for turbocharging your sex life.
1. Take time to relax
Relaxing allows you to be more aware of your sexual energy, enhances sexual feelings, and frees you up to respond sexually. Allow time for morning sex when you are still relaxed from sleep, or after a nap.
2. Lighten up
Because of media influence, most couples have an exaggerated, stressful image of sex. To have more fun, focus on having a good time with your partner, instead of meeting a goal. Some sex encounters go well, some don’t, so have a sense of humor. Spend more time giggling, talking, and being silly and less time under pressure. A lighter attitude makes sex more fun.
3. Learn to communicate
The best beginning for a lovely sexual encounter is a good, honest, and open conversation. When you were new lovers, you talked and sex was easy. Frequently make time to “catch up” with each other over an unhurried dinner or breakfast. Express your hopes and dreams, clear the air, and you can both relax. From there, it’s not such a long distance into the bedroom.
4. Be flexible
Physical agility can be helpful, but emotional flexibility will really improve your sex life. The longer you and your partner are together, the more you need options.
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