Revealing Insights Into Kate Middleton’s Relationship With the Royal Family

She’s been with Prince William for almost two decades, so Kate Middleton has had lots of time to get to know the royal family. However, mystery still surrounds how much they like her. What is Kate’s relationship really like with the royal family members? Some family ties are much tenser than others (page 10).

1. Prince Harry

Prince William, Duchess Kate Middleton, and Prince Harry are clapping at a stadium full of people.
Prince William, Duchess Kate, and Prince Harry | Alastair Grant/AFP/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: brother-in-law

Kate can count on her brother-in-law to always be in her corner. The two are chummy, whether they’re spending time together at a shared charity event or a social gathering. In 2017, Harper’s Bazaar revealed that Prince Harry views Kate as “the big sister he never had.”

Next: A controversial cousin in Kate’s corner

2. Princess Eugenie

Catherine greets Princess Eugenie at the St. Andrews 600th Anniversary Dinner
Catherine greets Princess Eugenie at the St. Andrews 600th Anniversary Dinner | Samir Hussein/WireImage

Royal relation to Kate: cousin-in-law

The media noticed awkward dynamics between Princess Eugenie and Kate early on. But things seem better in recent years. Of course, Eugenie remains most loyal to her sister, Princess Beatrice (more on that drama later). But Eugenie is reportedly on good terms with the whole family, especially Princes William and Harry.

In January 2017, Buckingham Palace announced Eugenie’s engagement to long-term boyfriend Jack Brooksbank. Both the royal family and her fiance’s family expressed delight over the upcoming nuptials. It seems the princess has a future of her own to focus on.

Next: A 22-year age gap doesn’t hurt this relationship.

3. Lady Louise of Windsor

Britain's Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge (R) and Lady Louise Windsor watch the rowing finals during the London 2012 Paralympic Games
Then-8-year-old Lady Louise Windsor watches the London 2012 Paralympic Games with the Duchess of Cambridge. | Stefan Roussea/AFP/GettyImages

Royal relation to Kate: cousin-in-law

Daughter of Prince Edward and Sophie, Countess of Wessex, Lady Louise caught the public’s attention when she served as one of Kate’s adorable bridesmaids in 2011. Since then, Louise and Kate have enjoyed many public outings together. Despite their age difference (Louise is 14 and Kate is 36), the queen’s granddaughters get along swimmingly. They’re often seen chatting and laughing while representing the royal family.

Next: The best grandfather a royal could have?

4. Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh

Queen Elizabeth II, Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, Princess Charlotte of Cambridge, Prince George of Cambridge and Prince William, Duke of Cambridge look out from the balcony of Buckingham Palace during the Trooping the Colour parade.
(L-R) Queen Elizabeth II, Prince Philip, Catherine, Charlotte, George, and William during the Trooping the Colour parade. | Chris Jackson/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: grandfather-in-law

Kate Middleton shows that she has nothing but respect and admiration for her grandfather-in-law. Upon marrying Prince William and taking on duchess duties, Kate openly said she looked to fill Philip’s shoes and follow his example.

Next: This relationship proves rumors can be false.

5. Anne, Princess Royal

Duchess Kate and Princess Anne
Duchess Kate and Princess Anne | Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: husband’s aunt

Anne, Princess Royal, reportedly gossiped about Kate before her wedding. Then, a tabloid frenzy occurred before Prince George’s birth, when Anne, mother to William and Kate’s cousins Zara and Peter, seemed indifferent when asked if she was excited about a new baby in the family. However, the two often chat at social events, so this feud seems like idle gossip.

Next: The important relationship Kate maintains — outside her marriage.

6. Queen Elizabeth II

Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge and Queen Elizabeth II watch part of a children's sports event.
She has a special place in Queen Elizabeth’s heart. | Phil Noble/WPA Pool/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: grandmother-in-law

Some relatives seem to have a problem with the attention Kate Middleton receives (more on that soon). It’s not surprising because she clearly maintains one of the best relationships with Queen Elizabeth. Kate reportedly dated Prince William for a while before meeting the queen for the first time at Peter and Autumn Phillips’ wedding. She and her royal grandmother have only grown closer since then.

Next: Kate’s relationship with her father-in-law seems a bit strained.

7. Prince Charles

Prince Charles and Kate Middleton pose together.
She makes a great daughter-in-law. | Justin Tallis/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: father-in-law

We don’t hear much about Kate Middleton’s relationship with her father-in-law, Prince Charles. But there were rumors of tension shortly after Kate married Prince William. Charles was reportedly “irked” by his son and daughter-in-law on their first royal trip overseas as a married couple, stating he felt the trip featured too many photo ops and was treated too much like a “personal holiday” instead of a diplomatic trip.

Next: What does Prince Charles’ hat-loving wife think?

8. Camilla Parker-Bowles, Duchess of Cornwall

Camilla and Kate stand in front of a car.
She seems to get along well with Camilla. | Jack Taylor/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: stepmother-in-law

Things seem cordial between the two duchesses nowadays. But in the beginning, Camilla and Kate were reportedly at odds. One biographer revealed in a book that Camilla thought Kate was “too common” to marry Prince William and may have tried to manipulate the relationship so they wouldn’t get married.

Other reports said Camilla’s close confidantes fed the press unflattering information about Kate and her family.  This is the same Camilla who Princess Diana was at odds with for years, so perhaps this isn’t surprising.

Next: What about Prince Harry’s new bride?

9. Meghan Markle

Duchess Catherine and Duchess Meghan
Duchesses Catherine and Meghan attend Christmas Day Church. | Stephen Pond/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: sister-in-law

Prince Harry’s wife has also spent time with Kate and William’s children. Considering Kate’s affinity for her brother-in-law it’s no surprise sources say she defended her sister-in-law as the media reported about Markle’s previous divorce and sometimes-racy career.

While Kate didn’t have a big role at Markle’s wedding, reports indicate the two are relatively close, and Kate is helping Markle fit in with the royal family.

Next: Everyone can see the tension between Kate and this royal.

10. Princess Beatrice

Kate Middleton and Princess Beatrice standing together at an event.
Rumors about Princess Beatrice and Kate claim they don’t get along. | Chris Jackson/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: cousin-in-law

Sarah, Duchess of York (commonly known as Fergie) has long caused a rift in the royal family. So much so that it created tension between her daughters, Princess Beatrice and Eugenie, and the rest of the royal family. Many believe this rift translated to the girls not liking Kate — although Eugenie seems to have warmed up to her cousin-in-law.

Princess Beatrice is reportedly quite icy toward Kate, feeling sidelined due to Kate’s place and popularity in the royal family, especially with her grandmother, Queen Elizabeth. The feud between the two women regularly steals headlines.

Next: Any talk of disdain between these two is just gossip.

11. Princess Sophie, Countess of Wessex

Kate Middleton and Princess Sofie standing together.
Could there be an air of competition between these two? | Chris Jackson/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: husband’s aunt

Sure, there have been a few whispers that Kate had a falling out with Sophie Wessex after Sophie reportedly became Queen Elizabeth’s “favorite in-law.” But from the looks of things, at least in public, this appears to be a rumor. The press regularly photographs the Countess and Duchess — both from common backgrounds — having a fabulous time together at social events.

Next: The birth of Kate’s children strengthened this relationship.

12. Zara Tindall

Kate Middleton and Zara stand together at an event.
Kate Middleton and Zara have no feuds between them. | Chris Jackson/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: cousin-in-law

Kate Middleton’s relationship with Prince William’s cousin, Zara, is difficult to decipher. Over the years, some speculated Kate herself became cold after rumors floated around that Zara was gossiping before Kate and William’s 2011 wedding. But now, Zara is Prince George’s godmother, and her daughter Mia has play dates with Prince George. It’s also well-known that Zara has had a close relationship with Prince William and Prince Harry throughout their royal lives.

Next: Kate and this royal’s similarities bring them together.

13. Autumn Phillips

Kate Middleton and Autumn Phillips stand at a balcony.
Their kids must really get along. | Chris Jackson/Getty Images

Royal relation to Kate: wife of cousin-in-law

Autumn entered the royal family after she got hitched to Princess Anne’s son, Peter. As a mother of two and former commoner, she and Kate have a lot in common. (It’s no wonder the Montreal native is called “Canada’s Kate Middleton.”) The two aren’t seen together much, although they’ve been friendly in every setting since Autumn’s 2008 wedding.

Next: How Kate gets along with other ladies across the globe …

14. Other royal women

Kate Middleton black peacoat
Kate Middleton | Justin Tallis/AFP/Getty Images

Part of being a duchess is maintaining relations with royals outside of the monarchy. Since Kate constantly travels, she’s seen being friendly with other royal women. Most notably, she’s on friendly terms with Princess Charlene of Monaco and Queen Maxima of the Netherlands — both are close friends.

Next: Does Kate play into the race for the throne?

15. Where Kate fits in the feud for the Crown

Kate Middleton looks serious as she is looking at another woman.
Kate Middleton doesn’t seem to be fixated on the crown as much as others. | Richard Pohle/AFP/Getty Images

Some of the royal family’s animosity toward Kate may involve her proximity to the throne. Since Prince Charles and Prince Andrew are in a tug-of-war over who will succeed Queen Elizabeth, Kate’s rise to popularity surely irks the royals. (Plus, Prince Andrew fears his daughters, Beatrice and Eugenie, will be further nudged out of the royal circle if Charles becomes king.) Kate keeps her distance from this fight.

Next: So, why do we keep talking about this, anyway?

16. Why Kate’s relationships are so fascinating

This is a closeip of Kate Middleton's smiling face.
Kate Middleton is as lovely as she seems. | Carl Court/AFP/Getty Images

The fascination over Kate Middleton’s relationships with all the royals keeps her Cinderella-like story alive. Her fairy-tale relationship with Prince William and her entrance into the family never seem to get boring. Particularly when you consider all the drama among the family members even before Kate got there!

Next: What does this mean for the next soon-to-be royal?

17. How does this affect the future of the family?

The british royal family in formal dress at a state function.
We hope to see Kate do amazing things while with the royal family. | Ben Pruchnie/Getty Images

The spotlight on the royal family has shifted since Prince Harry got engaged to actress Meghan Markle. This has, of course, spawned countless comparisons between Meghan and Kate — especially when it comes to Meghan’s relationship with the rest of the royal family.

With Harry’s bride-to-be becoming the first non-married family member to spend the holidays with the queen, it’s only a wonder what we’ll learn. (And, of course, we wonder how Meghan’s relationship with the queen will be compared to Kate’s.)

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