Should you stay or should you go? No relationship is perfect, and sometimes the hardships might leave you wondering if yours can be saved … or if it’s even worth trying to save it in the first place.
There are signs that the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over, which is to be expected. But there are also some warning signs that your actual union is coming to an end — and if you’re noticing these, you may want to consider letting it go for good.
You don’t have an emotional connection anymore (or you never did)
Every relationship has rough patches, and sometimes people can disconnect from each other. But if you reach a point where you realize the connection is gone — or, worse, you never actually had it in the first place — it may be a sign that neither of you really want to be connected in that way.
You feel more like roommates than anything else
Roommates are great … for companionship and help with paying the bills. Your romantic partner should be much more, and if they aren’t, that’s a big red flag. If you feel like your sweetie is just a friend, in your heart, you might already know the romance is over.
You’ve discovered some unacceptable behaviors
Everyone makes mistakes, but if your partner has been deceiving you about things that are deal breakers, ending things may be best. We’re not talking about little white lies, either: Racking up massive debt you’re both responsible for, an unmentioned child, or past dealings with unsavory characters are common examples. At some point, you need to protect yourself.
Someone cheated and you’re not getting past it
As horrible as infidelity feels, it’s not always the end — some couples are able to work past it. But you’re under no obligation to continue the relationship if you just can’t bring yourself to forgive and forget, and quite frankly, neither is your partner.
It takes a lot of work and time to get past an affair. If one or both of you isn’t willing to put in the work, it’s best to part ways.
You feel lonely even when you’re together
Do you feel an emptiness inside even when you’re with your partner? Do you stop yourself from sharing things with your other half or feel uncomfortable opening up? These are major red flags, and it’s worth asking yourself if the union is really worth it.
Your important needs just aren’t compatible
It’s impossible to know everything about a person when you start dating them, and even years into the relationship, mismatched needs can surface. Perhaps your sexual appetites are drastically different, or maybe one of you wants children and the other just doesn’t. While certain things can and should be compromised, if either of you has to give up something you’ve always wanted, you may end up resentful.
You can easily imagine life without your partner (and you do)
While it’s normal to occasionally envision a life in which you’re young, wild, free, and traveling around the world (or whatever brings you joy), the fact is, you’re in your relationship mainly because you can’t imagine your life without your other half. But if you’re constantly envisioning a life without them in it, that’s a big sign that your heart is no longer in it.
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