Tell-Tale Signs Someone Is a Sociopath (And Famous Examples From Pop Culture)
A compulsive liar or toxic coworker can make life hell. But is something more going on? Without an official diagnosis, it’s hard to tell. The following signs indicate that someone may be a sociopath — plus we included extreme, real-life examples from popular culture. One common red flag is visible in nearly all sociopaths (page 10).
1. Explodes with anger
- Extreme example: Richard Kuklinski, aka the “Ice Man”
When things don’t go how the sociopath planned, it results in sudden anger. Ever see someone fly off the handle over a minor slight? This anger stems from the fact that the inner narcissist can’t control their surroundings. was New York hitman Richard Kuklinski was known for his quick temper and rage-induced
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2. Blatantly lies
- Extreme example: Dexter Morgan from Dexter
Pathological liars clearly signal some issues. We’ve outlined the signs of a compulsive liar before, so watch out for them when dealing with a potential sociopath. The hit CBS series Dexter portrayed a killer who constantly lies to cover up his killings, living a double life as a result.
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3. Can win over anyone
- Extreme example: Ted Bundy
A sign of sociopathy is extreme charisma. They may display intense eye contact and communication skills. A sociopath can win over a room of strangers with their outgoing personality. The most famous example of this intense charisma may be Ted Bundy. Described as articulate and charming, the serial killer flirted with young women, then raped and killed them.
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4. Emotionally detached
- Extreme example: Anton Chigurh from No Country for Old Men
Total emotional detachment causes sociopaths to do things others cannot. Essentially, they don’t feel anything when they are wrong or hurt someone. The film No Country for Old Men portrays killer Anton Chigurh, who has no emotional attachment to his deadly deeds. In the 2007 crime thriller, the cold-hearted assassin — played by Javier Bardem — uses a bolt pistol to murder people.
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5. Disregard for social norms
- Extreme example: Joey Buttafuoco
If someone doesn’t understand or care about social norms, it could be a sign of other issues. They’re likely comfortable with breaking laws and disobeying rules. You may recall the notorious case of Joey Buttafuoco, whose affair with teen Amy Fisher gained national attention after Fisher tried to murder his wife, Mary Jo. In 2009, 17 years later, Mary Jo called Joey a “sociopath and a liar.”
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6. Loves to create drama
- Extreme example: Patrick Bateman from American Pyscho
A sociopath may not form emotional attachments, but they have no problem tapping into the emotions of others if it serves them. They may create drama for no reason or relish the chance to capitalize on others’ drama. Patrick Bateman in 1991’s American Psycho shows this quality via his frequent outbursts toward his fiance, coworkers, and others.
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7. Gets bored easily
- Extreme example: Deidre Hunt
Change is healthy, but not all the time. If he or she is always changing jobs, homes, relationships, and more, this is a sure sign of boring easily. Seeking thrills, a sociopath will act impulsively when bored. An extreme example of this trait is convicted murderer
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8. A convincing talker with big plans
- Extreme example: Jim Jones
Sociopaths are convincing talkers who use extreme statements to sway others. As Psychology Today says, “Watch out for extremes. Big promises. Big stories, about the past or the future. Big plans, with no basis for them or no experience at whatever they’re planning.”
One extreme example: cult leader Jim Jones. The talented communicator convinced 900 people to move from America to Guyana. Then, he persuaded all of them to commit mass suicide by drinking cyanide-laced Kool-Aid.
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9. Always puts themselves first
- Extreme example: Diane Downs
A sense of inflated self-worth is a classic sign of a sociopath. These people take an overbearing interest in themselves. This can come across as selfishness and self-centeredness — two easily identifiable traits. A real-life instance is Diane Downs, an Oregon woman who was so obsessed with being with her boyfriend that she killed her children.
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10. Manipulates what you say and do
- Extreme example: Jeffrey MacDonald
A sociopath will play puppet master with the people in their lives, thinking they’ll get away with it and not caring about the consequences. This is when many people realize they’re dealing with a sociopath. In 1979, a medical doctor and Green Beret, Jeffrey MacDonald brutally killed his daughters and pregnant wife. Throughout his adult life, he’d manipulated everyone into thinking he was an honorable family man.
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11. Sex is strictly physical
- Extreme example: Alex from A Clockwork Orange
Sociopaths are involved in relationships until they no longer get a reward, reports Psychology Today. They’ll do anything to fulfill needs, regardless of social norms. Viewing sex as a physical transaction, he or she will check out once things get emotionally intimate. The main character in A Clockwork Orange exhibits this behavior to the extreme. He sexually assaults women in the film
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12. Reckless with themselves and others
- Extreme example: Josef Mengele
Reckless behaviors vary, but the issue is that a sociopath won’t see the connection between the behavior and consequences. They’ll try to get away with it for as long as they can, despite getting caught repeatedly.
An unusual example of this may be Josef Mengele, a Nazi physician in the Auschwitz concentration camp. Known as the “Angel of Death,” he supervised thousands of murders and experimented on prisoners in torturous ways. Also an example of emotional detachment, Mengele saw no connection between his actions and others’ pain.
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13. Struggles to make and keep friends
- Extreme example: Ed Gein
A sociopath’s behavior easily drives people away. They may seem to have friends until their actions drive everyone away. If someone can’t keep a friend or doesn’t have friends, there’s a reason for it.
Ed Gein is an extreme example. The serial killer grew up on an isolated farm in Wisconsin and developed antisocial behaviors. In 1957, police arrested him after getting reports of skulls inside his home. In addition to murdering women, he’d been digging up bodies at cemeteries.
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14. Lack of guilt
- Extreme example: John Wayne Gacy
Similar to emotional detachment, a lack of guilt when a person has wronged others can signal a sociopath. A real-life example occurred in 1978 when John Wayne Gacy was arrested for
Additional reporting by Gina Ragusa and Ali Harrison.