Plenty of people searching for a relationship use dating apps or match-making services to help them find a partner who shares their interests and is compatible with their lifestyle. But what if a psychologist-developed personality test could have done this for us all along?
The Myers-Briggs, which offers insights into 16 distinct personality types among humankind, is widely used among psychologists and everyday people who are interested in exploring the constructs of their personality. However, it turns out it’s also extremely useful to identify the kind of person we should be dating.
But first, a little more about the test
Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Meyer developed the system, based on Analytical psychology, as an easy-to-use indicator of personality traits. However, psychologists have found it can also be used to test your compatibility with others based on their results of the Myers-Briggs test.
It’s made up of these 16 distinct personality types
According to Myers-Briggs, there are 16 different personality types you can fall under, and each is made up of a combination of four traits derived from a list of eight possibilities. They include extraversion (E), sensing (S), thinking (T), judgment (J), introversion (I), intuition (N), feeling (F), and perception (P).
For example, “The Guardian,” which is comprised of ESTJ, is extroverted, sensing, thinking, and judges. There are various sensible romantic matches for you based on which personality type you fall under (keep reading for your matches).
Who ‘The Artist’ should date
- “The Artist” is ISFP
The Artist is intuitive, focuses on sensing and feeling when making decisions, and relies on perception. ISFP personality types enjoy being around people and are sympathetic to others’ desires and needs. While they’re often more reserved and take longer to warm up to new people, they have no need to control and prefer to follow the “live and let live” mantra.
Who ‘The Executive’ should date
- “The Executive” is ENTJ
The Executive tackles life’s challenges exactly as it sounds: head-on, like a true leader, rationally and logically. They’re forceful and decisive individuals whose powerful presence can easily intimidate. In relationships, their strengths include their sentimental and affectionate nature, as well as their belief in commitment. Their critical and argumentative nature, bad temper, and difficulty listening round out their weaknesses.
ENTJ personality types should date INTP (“The Thinker”) or INFP (“The Idealist”) personality types. INTP partners have no desire to control and are easily excited, which suits an ENTJ’s lifestyle well. INFP partners are supportive and encouraging while remaining flexible to the controlling nature of an ENTJ.
Who ‘The Doer’ should date
- “The Doer” is ESTP
The Doer is outgoing, enthusiastic, and live in the “world of action” with a primary focus on getting things done. They are great at reading people and are typically a few steps ahead of the people they’re interacting with: This can make or break a relationship. Their strengths in a romantic relationship include their sensual nature and comfortability with conflict. They commonly misunderstand others feelings and tend to bore easily, among other weaknesses.
ESTP personality types pair with ISTJ (“The Duty Fulfiller”), who are able to take conflict and the criticism that come from misunderstandings. They also mesh well with ISFJ (“The Nurturer”), whose strengths include taking care of practical matters while The Doer is off and out in the world.
Who ‘The Nurturer’ should date
- “The Nurturer” is ISFJ
Nurturers have a clear picture of the world they want to live in and strive to attain this ideal life. They are hands-on learners with incredible memories. In relationships, their perceptive nature and awareness of others’ feelings is a strength, while their weaknesses include difficulty expressing their needs and saying no.
Nurturers should date ESFP (“The Performer”), whose strength leads them to recognize and leave toxic relationships. They also match with the ESTP (“The Doer”) personality type, whose charming nature and comfortability with conflict contrast ISFJ well.
The test helps us understand ourselves better …
You may believe that you’re an extrovert based on how energized you get from a night around friends, or be convinced you’re introverted because you gain energy from being alone. However, the details of the Myers-Briggs test prove it’s much more intricate than that.
For example, you can be an extrovert who prefers facts and figures (“The Guardian”) or one who requires a deep connection with others (“The Performer”). The same goes for introverts: Some opt to work hands-on and are nurturing by nature (“The Nurturer”) while others are reserved (“The Duty Fulfiller”).
… and it can be a great indicator of who you should end up with
Do opposites attract, or are we all better off pairing up with someone who shares our tendencies and opinions? The test helps to answer these age-old questions, and the result it: Well, both.
It all comes down to your specific results and how compatible you are with the various other personality types. ISTJ personality types are loyal and look for that same loyalty in a partner, so research recommends they look for their match in a reliable partner who is more extroverted (ESTP or ESFP).
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