The Quit List: 4 Things You Need to Stop Doing This Year
Each new year offers an opportunity to make resolutions and engage in activities aimed toward self-improvement. However, sometimes you have to resolve to do less or stop doing some things altogether.
“Once you’re clear on what specific things you can do to change your life, then delve into the practical side and begin removing the wasteful extras and focusing on the essential things that will bring you the results you want,” said personal growth specialist Michael Mackintosh.
Here’s a list of somethings you should stop doing if you want to live your best year yet.
1. Stop doubting yourself
Work on building your self-esteem this year. Stop treating yourself poorly and resolve to see your good qualities. Celebrate your worth.
“The problem of self-esteem is this human capacity for judgment. It’s one thing to dislike certain colors, noises, shapes, or sensations. But when you reject parts of yourself, you greatly damage the psychological structures that literally keep you alive,” said psychologist Matthew McKay.
2. End toxic relationships
Don’t let others belittle you and make you feel like your worth depends on what they think of you. Aim to end relationships (both friendships and romantic partnerships) that are hurting you. Relationship expert Devin Walters says it’s important to remove people from your life who are causing you harm.
“Sure, no relationship is ever perfect,” Walters said. “Sometimes you even need to strike a compromise in order build a potentially good relationship into what it could be. But when someone you thought was important to you starts to do more harm than good to you and the people around you, it’s time to make a change before it’s too late.”
3. Quit a soul-sucking job
Don’t stay at your job just for the paycheck. You know it’s time to leave if you’re getting sick, your boss despises you, or you have to deal with toxic co-workers. You deserve a healthy work environment. Career expert and author Richard Lowe Jr. says your work day should never include harassment:
The ideal work environment is free from harassment of all kinds. You should expect to be treated as a human being, although your employer has every right to demand that you put in a solid day’s work for a day’s pay. Anything that creates a hostile work environment is harassment…In fact, one of the characteristics of an excellent job is being supported by your boss and employer, such that you do the best job possible with the highest quality.
4. Stop neglecting yourself
Make a point to pay more attention to your basic needs. Be good to yourself by practicing self-care. This includes adequate sleep, a healthy diet, and nurturing relationships.
“The practice of extreme self-care forces us to make choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of our soul,” said author and life coach Cheryl Richardson. “While the whole notion of this might seem selfish or self-centered, doing so actually allows us to make our greatest contribution to the world.”
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