You’ll Never Believe the Real Reason You’re Still Single

Still single? You’re hardly alone. More Americans are single than married for the first time in U.S. history. Some believe they’re meant to be single for life, while others are still out there searching for their significant other.

If you’re still looking for love are probably wondering: Why am I still alone? A personal financial site may have found one of the answers to this age-old question (page 4).

Maybe you blame it on your insecurities …

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Don’t be too hard on yourself. | HBO

Or any one of these alternate reasons. Single Reddit users took to the internet to share why they believe they’re still single despite the fact they’d welcome a relationship. A few people said that they want a partner but have no idea what qualities they want the partner to possess. Others claimed they put “literally 0 effort into not being single.”

One user inspired over 100 people to engage when they said they believed they were still single because they were “Scared of rejection, scared of failing, scared of not being able to live up to someone’s expectations.”

Next: This may be the not-so-obvious reason why. 

You could be stuck in a routine

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If you never look around, you may miss someone. | BEHROUZ MEHRI/Getty Images

For many people, the older you get, the less likely you are to take risks and switch up your routine. You could be directly influencing your relationship status if you’re stuck in a strict routine.

According to Psychology Today, challenging the inner voice that encourages us to stick to a routine is necessary to “resist falling into a comfort zone.” Hit the gym after work instead of beforehand, try a new restaurant, or brave a bar by yourself. “We should try new activities and even try dating diverse people as a means to discover new parts of ourselves.” You’d be surprised who you may meet along the way.

Next: One major factor in your life could be affecting your relationship status.

Your job, or the job of your potential SO, could be a factor

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Turns out nurses and pharmacists have the best shot at a long-term relationship together … according to the dating app, Clover. The app analyzed data from 33,000 of its users over the age of 18. It looked at how their occupations influenced what kind of relationship they were looking for.

People who listed their occupation as journalist, police officer or advertiser were most likely looking for something “casual,” while most actors and engineers were just seeking a hook-up.

Next: This study claims one external factor is to blame for your single status.

Turns out where you live could be to blame

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Analysts found that location plays a big factor in your relationship status. The cities with the highest number of singles had double that of those with the lowest. WalletHub’s experts recommended singles thinking of moving look for a city with a higher single population and more dating opportunities.

“[It’ll] help you know if this city is a feasible option for you in meeting your goals as a single individual,” Rachel Needle, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist said.

Next: The worst-rated city to find love in.

The lowest-rated city to find love is …

Stowe, Vermont

Vermont is beautiful, but it’s a tough place to find love. | DonLand/iStock/Getty Images

South Burlington, Vermont. It ranked 171 out of the 182 analyzed cities for “Fun & Recreation” and second to last for “Dating Opportunities.” While Burlington as a whole had the second highest single population, South Burlington had the second lowest singles gender balance.

WalletHub found that “more entertainment choices and low cost of living don’t matter much, however, if the number of potential mates to meet are limited in your area,” and based on their research, the balance between males and females in South Burlington would limit that ability.

Next: The best city to find love in according to the findings.

The best city is San Francisco

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San Francisco was rated third for “Fun & Recreation” opportunities as well as fourth for “Dating Opportunities” which propelled it to the top as WalletHub’s “best” city for singles to live in. It ranked exceptionally low in terms of “Economics” at 180.

This doesn’t come as much of a surprise. San Francisco is notoriously expensive: Forbes ranked it the fourth most expensive city in America in 2009. For those willing to pay the hefty price tag, however, WalletHub found it an ideal city for dating. It tied three other cities for the most nightlife opportunities per capita.

Next: Don’t worry, you’re not alone.

Keep in mind: Over 45% of the U.S. population is unmarried

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There are more single people in the U.S. than ever before. | monkeybusinessimages/iStock/Getty Images

The 2016 U.S. Census Bureau discovered that over 110 million people, or 45% of the U.S. population 18 and over is unmarried. This doesn’t account for those who were in relationships at the time. Approximately 53.2% of the single population were women and 46.8% were men.

According to The Washington Post, this is the largest number of unmarried Americans at a single time in history. The number increased by nearly 18 million between 2006 and 2015 alone. It’s worth noting that younger adults are getting married increasingly older than previous generations.

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