The Secrets Behind Kelly Ripa’s 20+ Year Marriage to Mark Consuelos

Many marriages can’t survive the celebrity lifestyle, but for Kelly Ripa, a strong marriage is part of her fabulous and successful life. In fact, her long-standing union with Mark Consuelos is the envy of couples everywhere. How do they do it? The TV show host spills the secrets behind her 20-plus year marriage.

Keep things frisky

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos' throwback photo.

They were hooked on each therefrom the very start. | Kelly Ripa via Instagram

If you watch Ripa and Consuelos together, it’s obvious that they’re still very much attracted to each other. So perhaps it’s no surprise they maintain an active sex life. “They have a happy, playful, and healthy sex life,” a source tells “Mark is a really passionate guy and Kelly is a passionate woman, which is why she fell for him when they met.”

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Put the kids to bed early

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos smiling together on a red carpet.

When the kids go to bed, date night begins. | Robin Marchant/Getty Images

Ripa and Consuelos are busy parents. But when their kids were younger, they didn’t let that change their marriage. “Sometimes we’ll put the kids to bed early and watch Jersey Shore on DVR,” she said in an interview. “I think we’re better parents because we have date night to look forward to.” (More on that on page 7.)

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Support each other

Kelly Ripa kissing Mark Consuelos on a red carpet.

They work hard to support one another. | Kevork Djansezian/Getty Images

Picking each other up is a must in any relationship. And when Ripa was going through difficulties at work, she knew she could turn to her husband for support. “Mark is such a smart guy and is always in the face of business very dispassionate,” she told People Magazine.  “He just put it together in a beautiful package for me and made it very palatable, very matter-of-fact and very sensible.”

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Give each other a little space

Kelly Ripa speaking into a microphone while Mark Consuelos laughs next o her.

Smothering your spouse is never a good idea. | Santiago Felipe/Getty Images for VH1 & Logo Communications

While doing things with your spouse is great, Ripa admits that giving her husband space to do his own thing is important too. “I don’t give him a hard time about seeing his friends,” she relayed to Good Housekeeping. “He doesn’t need to take me everywhere or do everything with me. I’m very much about us having our own separate time.”

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Acknowledge that fights will happen

Kelly Ripa attends the "All We Had" Premiere during the 2016 Tribeca Film Festival at BMCC John Zuccotti Theater on April 15, 2016 in New York City.

A marriage without a little bickering? Unheard of. | Mike Coppola/Getty Images for Tribeca Film Festival

Even the happiest married couples have their little fights. Just ask Kelly Ripa. “We argue about children, discipline, homework, good-cop/bad-cop,” she summarized to Good Housekeeping. She said something similar to People in 2013. “It’s OK to fight about things. We’re secure with each other. I don’t feel like if we have an argument, it will be the end of our lives.”

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No nagging

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos posing on a red carpet.

Ripa isn’t a nagging housewife. This might help in keeping the passion alive. | Mike Coppola/Getty Images

While there may be little fights, Ripa isn’t one to go creating problems between her and her husband. “I don’t give him a hard time about not doing things around the house, like taking out the trash,” she said to Good Housekeeping.

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Keep having date nights

Carving out time for each other is very important. | Mark Davis/Getty Images

Make that one date night a week, even if you don’t go out. “Set aside one night a week for ‘date night in.’ Set the table, put out candles and have a delicious meal together,” Ripa recommends. “It’s really just about checking in, asking how the other person’s day is, and cuddling up.

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