The Shocking Reason Women Are More Likely to Lose Interest in Sex

Surely you’ve seen what all the commotion is about. You know, the recent study saying women are far more likely to lose interest in sex than men. But there is more to these findings than a splashy headline. And there are even things women can do to keep from becoming a part of this statistic. Here is the shocking reason women are more likely to lose interest in sex.

But first: What’s all the fuss about?

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All the hype comes from a recent study published in BMJ Open, in which U.K. researchers polled roughly 5,000 men and 6,700 women. Researchers concluded that women are more than twice as likely to lose interest in sex after the first year of a long-term relationship than their male counterparts. So why are women so much more likely to lose their libido?

For starters, relationship duration impacts libido

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One of the most interesting findings from the study was that time has a profound impact on a woman’s lack of sexual desire. While factors like age and overall health played a part, women have been found to be far more likely to lose interest in sex while in relationships lasting for over a year.

Long story short: The longer the relationship, the lower the chance of satisfaction. How could this be?

The emotional bond might be lost

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When we look outside the BMJ study, we find that a big factor in why women lose interest in sex comes from the loss of emotional connection. Sometimes, one or both members of the couple needs to bury themselves in work or engage in more activities on their own, which creates a wedge emotionally.

Becoming too attached

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A jaw-dropping factor that causes both genders to lose interest in sex? Being too in sync with your partner. It sounds crazy, but it’s true. Becoming too much of the same person as your partner makes you neglect what you want and desire sexually. This can make sex mundane and less enjoyable, since you are simply going through the motions. Which brings up a truly interesting point …

The craziest reason of them all: The ‘fantasy bond’

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The most shocking reason of all that women lose interest in sex? It has been found that when a couple doesn’t acknowledge individuality they are less likely to openly talk about what they want sexually. This, in turn, leads to less satisfaction in the bedroom. This becomes what Psychology Today calls the “fantasy bond.”

“People who engage in a fantasy bond value routine over spontaneity and safety over passion,” the article explains. Without that sexual spontaneity, or the need to talk about it, the desire fades.

Age can also play a role …

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There is one factor that makes both genders lose interest in sex, and that is age. That same study published to BMJ Open reveals there are common ages in which each gender lacks interest in lust, although they differ. It was found that a lack of interest for men was higher at the ages of 35-44, while women with the highest lack of interest ranged from 55-64.

… and so can lifestyle

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But it isn’t just age that hurts your sex drive. Lifestyle factors have a lot to do with the loss of sexual desire. An unhealthy diet affects the libido, as does stress brought on by work or family. Medications for conditions unrelated to sex can even make your desire drop. And if your partner is experiencing a dip in sex drive? That can make you less interested as well.

How to get back in the saddle again

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Sure, there are many powers at work that affect interest in sex. But if you are someone suffering from a low libido, that doesn’t mean you are stuck that way for the rest of your life. There are options, such as changing medications or seeking relationship or sexual counseling. Above all, talking to your partner can be the best first step to getting your groove back and feeling that sexual spark again.