This Is the 1 Thing Arie Luyendyk Jr. From ‘The Bachelor’ Can’t Stand in a Woman

For nearly 15 years, The Bachelor has put hopeful single women with one man looking for love — and it’s anyone’s guess who he ends up picking in the end. There’s love, plenty of tears, and post-show drama that typically leads to a breakup between the smitten woman and the man who chose her. But every once in awhile, a real success story does occur, and they live happily ever after.

In the case of current Bachelor Arie Luyendyk Jr., however, luck hasn’t always been on his side. He’s vied for love before on reality TV and came up short — and some of his exes aren’t too impressed with how he’s treated women, either.

You may remember Arie Luyendyk Jr. first from The Bachelorette

Emily Maynard posing and smiling at an event.

She didn’t choose Arie. | Gary Gershoff/Getty Images

It was roughly five years ago when Bachelorette star Emily Maynard chose fellow contestant Jef Holm over Arie Luyendyk. He was the runner-up on the show — but on dating programs, that certainly doesn’t mean much. He was invited back by the network to be the current star, but not everyone was excited to see him.

According to The Washington Post, fans thought Peter Kraus, the personal trainer who’s also appeared on The Bachelorette, would be chosen to star this season. Apparently Kraus angered producers when he refused to propose to the bachelorette during the finale of his season, however, so he was given the pass for more screen time.

One ex-girlfriend says she was blindsided by their breakup

Sydney and Arie posing in front of a city view.

She might still have hard feelings. | Sydney Stempfley via Instagram

Fans of The Bachelorette thought Arie had it in the bag, as he was greatly favorited to win his season. But TV aside, one of his previous ex-girlfriends, Sydney Stempfley, said she never expected him to break up with her — or for him to later appear on the show as the star.

Entertainment Tonight reports the two met through Instagram, and they hit it off immediately. Sydney even met his parents and spent holidays with Arie, which made the sudden split all the more surprising. He broke up with her seemingly out of the blue, and then just a few weeks later was announced as the new Bachelor. 

And her harsh tweet might suggest she thinks he’s unfit for The Bachelor

Sydney Stempfley tweet.

She didn’t hold back. | Sydney Stempfley via Twitter

Are there any ill feelings on Sydney’s end? She appeared to first let things go between her and Arie — but then she threw serious shade at him via Twitter.

People reports previous Bachelor star Sean Lowe tweeted at the show’s creator recommending Arie as the next Bachelor hopeful. Then Sydney added her opinion by responding with a laughing emoji. “The show would be perfect for @ariejr up until it comes to choosing just one.” Perhaps she’s not so over their breakup after all.

Another ex says Arie is known for his cheating ways

Jenna Jones reporting on a field.

He seems to have a track record. | Joe Farris via YouTube

In 2013, Wetpaint reveals Arie dated Fox News reporter Jenna Jones for a few years starting in 2013. When she saw his Bachelor announcement, she couldn’t help but laugh about it on social media. Jenna said, “Should’ve watched it before I dated him for over three years. While he continued auditioning behind my back. My bad.”

And that’s not all, as RealitySteve took screenshots of Jenna’s Twitter rants. She continued with, “Blindly follow a dude who claims to be a hopeless romantic but forever cheats on and does despicable wrongs to women. Got it.”

The 1 thing he can’t stand? Women crying

A woman cries dramatically.

He gets antsy around the water works. | The Bachelorette via Giphy

Hopefully no ladies on The Bachelor who hope to date Arie get too emotional. Courtney Robertson, one of Arie’s exes and notorious past Bachelor winner, dished to Us Weekly about the one thing the self-proclaimed romantic can’t stand. According to her, he can’t handle when women cry.

Courtney says, “To keep the tears away, he’ll rely on affection.” To go along with this, she also noted he’s the best kisser she’s ever experienced. But on the other side of the coin, he also “doesn’t react well to being called out.”

It’s not just women he’s feuded with in the past

Arie and Jef posing on a red carpet.

His friendships have been on the fritz. | Imeh Akpanudosen/Getty Images

Arie and Jef Holm competed together for Emily Maynard’s love on The Bachelorette, and they became fast friends. But Us Weekly says fans of the show noticed their friendship ended when Jef called Arie “disgusting” on Twitter. Jef also slammed his former friend when he was announced as the new star of The Bachelor, saying he’d bet $5,000 that Arie’s relationship wouldn’t last a year.

So, what’s with the animosity? Another one of Arie’s exes says Jef wanted to be on The Bachelor for a long time, so he might just be jealous.

He says he’s here now for just one woman and a lasting love

Chelsea and Arie sitting on a couch.

Chelsea and Arie have hit it off. | ABC

Despite his sordid past, Arie says he’s here now to find his forever love. He tells People he’s really in it to get to know the women competing for his love — and he’s both “hopeful and overwhelmed” with his choices. About the experience so far, he says, “Trust me, dating so many amazing people is very, very exciting, but it’s also humbling and kind of scary. … Will I fall in love? Will they fall in love?”

“I came here for one reason: to find my future wife,” he reminds us. And Arie believes he’s at a point in his life where he’s truly ready to settle down, so we’ll see if he means it.

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