If celebrity summer splits are any indication of growing divorce trends, then some of the top reasons for divorce would be due to hot nannies, multiple cheating partners, and being un-supportive of each other’s careers. If Ben and Jen, Gwen and Gavin, Miranda and Blake, and now Megan and Brian couldn’t make it work, is there really any hope out there for the rest of us?
We’ll never know for sure the real reasons for these celeb couples’ splits, but we do know that divorce sucks, for famous and non-famous folk alike, and it’s always a sad situation even if it’s done for the right reasons. It’s like going through a breakup, but 10 times worse, mostly because you have built a life together with shared assets and possibly children. Plus, there are legalities involved that make everything complicated and messy. Such is life.
Although we’re dealing with divorces in 2015, a study reported in the Globe and Mail found that “the top five reasons in the 2011 matrimonial survey, conducted by Grant Thornton UK are: falling out of love (27%), extramarital affair (25%), unreasonable behavior (17%), midlife crisis (10%), and emotional/physical abuse (6%).” Financial worries lay on the lower end of the spectrum, which is good to hear; this means that spouses are more supportive of each other if they’re going through rough financial patches.
Even though not that much has changed since this survey, besides the continuous rise of social media and its affect on our daily existence (and divorces), here are the top-three reasons why couples will get divorced in 2015.
1. Social Media (Facebook and Twitter)
It actually makes me cringe having to write that Facebook and Twitter have become a significant threat to marriage, and now a factor in an increasing number of divorce cases. The Daily Mail reports a study, commissioned by the law firm Slater and Gordon, found that one in seven married individuals have considered divorce due to their spouse’s posts on Facebook and other social media outlets. Additionally, a similar number of participants admitted they search online for evidence of their spouses’ infidelity, while nearly one in five search daily because of the way their wife or husband uses social media.
Andrew Newbury, of Slater and Gordon, said: “Five years ago Facebook was rarely mentioned in the context of a marriage ending, but now it has become commonplace.” He continues: “Social media is the new marriage minefield. Social media, specifically pictures and posts on Facebook, are now being routinely raised in divorces.” The survey, which was conducted by Censuswide and surveyed 2,011 husbands and wives, found that the most common reasons for checking their spouse’s social media accounts was to discover where they were going and who they were talking to. Social media is already proving to be a face-to-face communications killer — now this?
A Huffington Post article notes that the root of every divorce, no matter if it’s adultery, growing apart, arguing a lot, or not being able to agree, stems from the larger root of resentment. At some point in any relationship, someone will harbor resentment for their significant other, which follows the common belief that love and hate are practically the same thing. Think about it for a second. Good.
Resentment can basically heighten throughout the relationship. The key to a successful relationship is to not harbor the resentment, but rather deal with it before it takes on a life of its own. If you or your spouse is feeling resentment, talk it out or consider couple’s counseling.
Now hear this: Cheating is at the root of 55% of divorces. Relationship experts say that marriage-ending extramarital affairs usually begin emotionally, when a spouse finds his or herself confiding in someone other than their spouse. It is just a matter of time until these affairs become physical. After an affair occurs, surprisingly, many couples are willing to work through the consequences of infidelity and the broken trust that comes as a result. Despite a willingness to work through it, resentment and ultimately knowingly or inadvertently pushing your spouse away cause the marriage to crumble.
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