This Body Language Is a Surefire Sign Your Marriage Is Headed for Divorce
Body language conveys feelings without speaking. Your partner may tell you how they’re feeling through their body language. If they often mimic the body language on our list, your marriage may be headed for divorce (if you’re in the process of getting a divorce, read these tips).
“It’s simple: Eye rolling indicates a disapproval or annoyance with your significant other,” Susan Constantine, human behavioral expert and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Reading Body Language, told Good Housekeeping. However, rolling your eyes every now and then is normal. What isn’t normal is if you or your significant other are constantly rolling your eyes at each other.
Hint: Leaning away from your partner says a lot.
Leaning away from each other
“If your seat is pointed away from your partner, then so is your body,” Patti Wood, body language expert and author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, told Good Housekeeping. “This is dangerous because it means that you’re disinterested in connecting with your partner.”
Hint: If your partner doesn’t come near you, there’s a problem.
You’re not as close as you once were
If you notice you or your partner are physically close with everyone else except for each other, examine your relationship to see what needs work. “When examining the lack of intimacy between you and your partner, it’s important to think about if this is singular to you,” Wood said. “If so, that means there’s trouble in paradise.”
Hint: Evaluate your relationship if this happens regularly in conversation.
“If your partner cuts you off when you’re speaking, it means that they’re thinking of any answer rather than listening to you,” Constantine said. A good partner will listen to what you have to say and then respond.
Hint: Having your arms crossed is bad.
“Typically, people cross their arms when they’re trying to defend themselves,” Constantine said. “It’s a visible way to put your guard up, which is never a good thing in an intimate relationship.” Crossing your arms tells your partner you’re not open.
Hint: Do this when you talk to your significant other? You’re trying to control them.
Standing with hands on hips
“This cocky stance is an obvious way to show someone who’s boss,” Constantine said. “However, this isn’t necessary in a strong relationship.” Constantine says this is a bad sign when a person has this body language while having a serious conversation with their partner. The move comes across as controlling and patronizing, like a parent scolding a child.
Hint: Uncommon emotional responses in a situation spell trouble.
You have different facial expressions
“It’s troubling when one person in the relationship doesn’t show the correct emotional response given the situation,” Constantine told Good Housekeeping. “If your partner is stressed, your face should reflect that. The same goes for any emotion that your partner feels.” For instance, if finances are the topic of a discussion and your partner’s face is nonchalant while yours is serious, that’s a bad sign.
Hint: Do you make fun of your partner? It’s not fun for them.
Mimicking each other
“Mimicking, name-calling, ridicule, and sarcasm are all means of contempt, which leads to relationship sabotage,” Constantine said. Making fun of your partner and teasing your partner are two different things. Teasing them for color-coordinating their sock drawer is one thing but calling them names is another.
Hint: Someone means business when they talk with their hands.
You talk with your hands
If you naturally talk with your hands, that’s OK. What’s not OK is talking with your hands when you’re conveying feelings of discontent. “Choppy hand gestures, in particular, lead to a ‘my way or the highway’ mentality,” Constantine said. Think waving someone away or arguing with lots of hand gestures. Pacing isn’t a good sign either.
Hint: Don’t put your partner second.
Someone or something else comes first
“Time is a nonverbal action,” Wood said. “For example. If your partner used to be on time but is now late, then it should raise a few eyebrows.” Putting each other second can create distance in a relationship and make a partner feel like their significant other doesn’t support them.
Hint: Don’t build an imaginary wall.
You’re not getting attention from your partner
“When someone turns their back on their partner, hangs up the phone before the conversation is over, or tunes out, it is referred to as stonewalling,” Constantine said. This relates to the body language sign on page 15. If you feel ignored by your partner, that’s a bad sign.
Hint: Is your brow constantly furrowed? You may be headed for divorce.
Your brow is furrowed
“No one likes to be criticized,” Constantine said. This is a slippery slope because contempt is one of the leading causes of divorce. “When someone notices that they’re partner has ‘judgy eyes,’ they’ll immediately feel defensive and put up a fight.
Hint: This movement is a tell-tale sign your partner is hiding something from you.
Touching your neck or throat
“Oftentimes, touching the neck or throat indicates that someone is keeping something from another person,” Wood said. “The throat is the gateway for words, and therefore it’s one of the most vulnerable parts of the body.” If your partner has a habit of touching their throat or neck, be skeptical of what they’re saying.
Hint: This nice gesture goes bad with one simple move.
You pat each other on the back
“If you partner begins to pat you on the back during a hug, it immediately desexualizes it,” Wood said. “Let’s face it, you and your partner aren’t just teammates.” If you notice your partner pats you on the back when you give them a hug, and it feels more like hugging a friend or family member, you’re in trouble.
Hint: Put your phone down and listen.
You, or your partner, is distracted
“Your partner should want to completely focus on you, no matter the subject matter,” Constantine said. They shouldn’t be using their phone, fidgeting, or flat out ignoring you. Even if you’re telling them about a show you watch but they don’t. They don’t have to be interested in the topic, but they should be interesting in listening to you.
Hint: This type of smile breeds trouble.
Your partner smirks at you (or vice versa)
“By smirking at your partner, you’re showing that you think you’re the superior in the relationship,” Constantine said. This breeds contempt and all sorts of other awful feelings. In a relationship, no one should be superior. Partners should be equals.
Hint: A common pose taught to women can mean your disinterested.
They cross their legs
“If your legs are closed, your partner will pick up on your disinterest,” Wood said. Again, this is a signal you’re not open to your partner. If for instance, your partner crosses their legs, as many women are taught to do, don’t think they’re disinterested.
Hint: This physical response clearly indicates if your partner has feelings for you.
Your eyes don’t light up
As the saying goes, eyes are the window to the soul. “When you’re sexually attracted to someone, your pupils will dilate in a moment of intimacy,” Wood said. “It happens subconsciously, so it’s a good indicator of your significant other’s interest in you.” This bodily response happens quickly — look away and you might miss it.
Hint: Are you within 18 inches of your partner? No? Here’s why that’s bad.
You pull away from your partner
The ideal intimate zone is somewhere between zero and 18 inches,” Constantine said. “When one partner holds back from intimacy or turns it down, there may be some greater issues at hand.” Think of Melania Trump pulling her hand away from President Donald Trump on numerous occasions.
Hint: How you walk with your partner says a lot about your relationship.
You don’t walk side-by-side
“The goal is for couples to walk with their feet side by side on an invisible line,” Wood said. Think of Prince William and Kate Middleton or Barack and Michelle Obama. “When this walking pattern is disrupted, it indicates that there is disconnect between the couple.” Not walking side-by-side may be an indicator that you don’t consider yourselves on a level playing field in your relationship.
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