Why You’ll Probably Marry the Wrong Person
If you’re someone who dreams of getting married some day, you probably have an “ideal” partner in mind. While you may think this a great idea, you could actually be doing yourself a disservice. As it turns out, your preferences and expectations could be setting you up to marry the wrong person! Afraid this could be you? Here’s how to know if you will marry the wrong person.
You don’t value trustworthiness
It goes without saying that trust is the most important part of any relationship. And when it comes to marriage, trust is almost more important than love. In knowing that, you should value trust above all other things when choosing a partner for life. If you don’t, you are more likely to marry someone that will ruin your trust.
All your relationships are based on sex
Yes, physical attraction and lust are important compounds in a healthy relationship. But if those are the only things you are looking for in a life partner, you are probably going to end up marrying the wrong person. “While you can underestimate the importance of sex in your marriage, be aware that you can also overestimate its importance,” FocusOnTheFamily.com tells us.
You tend to fall fast — and hard
A good way to marry the wrong person? Don’t give yourself enough time to get to know them. If you are someone that falls in love fast, you are more likely to jump into a serious relationship or marriage much faster. Falling head over heels for someone is great, but it can also drive you into a relationship that isn’t meant to last.
It’s the idea of marriage that you like …
… as opposed to wanting to get married because you genuinely love someone. For some people, the idea of being part of a duo is all they want. This fear of loneliness can drive them into a relationship with someone that isn’t right for them, all because they like the idea of a union.
Your standards are too low
Let’s face it — if you set low relationship goals for yourself, you’re more likely to marry someone that isn’t right for you. Sure, you don’t want to have standards so ridiculously high that no potential partner can ever meet them. But having a solid idea of what you need in your marriage helps to establish your self-worth and makes finding the right match more possible.
You aren’t open about your finances
No, we aren’t saying that your future spouse has to have a stocked savings account and a perfect credit score. (Who even has both of those things nowadays?) However, finances are one of the main things to cause stress in a relationship, especially as the relationship becomes more secret. It goes back to building trust — if you and your partner can’t be open about your finances, your setting your marriage up for failure.
You compare yourself too much to others
At the end of the day, your relationship isn’t going to be the same as your best friend’s, your neighbor’s, or anyone else’s. Trying too hard to mirror your marriage after someone else’s makes it more possible to get hitched to someone who is wrong for you.
You ignore important warning signs
There are certain warning signs you simply shouldn’t ignore during the dating process. For example, if your partner has anger issues or is extremly selfish, it should give you pause before marriage. If you decide to get married, anger issues will likely get worse. And more importantly, a person with a bad temper could become physically violent in the future.
A relationship should be a partnership. Your significant other should not expect to get his or her way all of the time. If you’ve been noticing a pattern of selfishness, this is an indication that your partner might not be marriage material. A mature person understands there should be a fair amount of give and take in a relationship. If you’re always giving and your partner is always taking, this is a bad sign.
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