We all search for a sense of peace in our daily lives. While we can’t eliminate stressful situations or even bad days, we can take steps to have a more serene day. Acceptance, awareness, and the company we keep are a few important things to keep in mind. Here are 4 peace-finding strategies to practice daily.
1. Be aware
This first, and crucial, step is often overlooked, and it shouldn’t be. In today’s busy world, it can be difficult to pinpoint what’s throwing off our zen. Situations, physical signs, and emotions that accompany anxiety aren’t as obvious as you might think. Try keeping a journal or making a note every time you’re feeling stressed. What’s going on around you when you feel anxious?
It might be a pain, or challenging at the least, to jot down every stressor, but you’ll quickly discover what displeases and pleases you. It will then be easier to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.
2. Get quality socializing…and alone time
When you allow people into your life who bring chaos, it’s difficult to maintain your serenity. Certain people will rub you the wrong way — try to avoid those people. They’ll only hamper your peace-finding mission. This doesn’t mean you should be holed up alone 24/7. Mingling with the right company can have an extremely positive affect on our minds.
According to the doctors at Aroostook Mental Health Center, socialization also directly impacts our stress levels in multiple ways. First, socialization increases a hormone that decreases anxiety levels and makes us feel more confident in our ability to cope with stressors. In addition, spending time with others directs our energy outward (rather than inward). If you are focused on reaching out to other people, you are temporarily distracted from your own circumstances, pain, or stress levels.
Evaluate who you are spending time with and why. If you don’t feel comfortable and confident in a relationship, minimize contact with that person.
3. Keep your home clean
It’s hard to relax when you’re surrounded by clutter. You should breathe a sigh of relief when you enter your home. A clean home is a refuge for your mind and provides stability and calmness.
Psychology Today found several reasons why mess causes stress:
- Clutter bombards our minds with excessive stimuli (visual, olfactory, tactile), causing our senses to work overtime on stimuli that aren’t necessary or important.
- Clutter distracts us by drawing our attention away from things we should be focusing on.
- Clutter constantly signals to our brains that our work is never done.
Fortunately, a messy house is an easy fix. Set aside a weekend for a complete overhaul. If you don’t use it or need it, throw it away. A whole weekend of cleaning sounds overwhelming, and very well may be, but the end result will be worth it. Because you’ll have a tidy base to move forward with, maintenance will be easy.
Just imagine coming home from work to a simple, clean living space. Now that’s a calming thought.
4. Practice acceptance and be thankful
Acceptance does not mean that you are stagnant, and it doesn’t mean you should accept poor treatment or abuse. What it does mean is that you are aware of your current situation, and you accept it. Studies have proven that building acceptance and decreasing shame are valuable tools to alleviate stress.
While you will still yearn for better things or an improved situation in the future, it’s important that you acknowledge what you do have. Accept that you aren’t happy with your current job, but make sure to give thanks for your employment. The same can be said for your house, car, or health.
Change and growth isn’t forgotten with acceptance, but you will find your path to success is a more peaceful one. You can add that to your list of things to be grateful for.