’90 Day Fiance’: Ash Naeck Admits Where He Went Wrong in His Relationship with Avery Warner

Every castmember on 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days has made at least a few mistakes. Some of them were just mini blunders, while others were enough to ruin the relationships. Ash Naeck’s mistakes fall in the second category. Naeck was never truly honest with his girlfriend Avery Warner. He was always telling her half-truths in order to make things flow smoothly between them. Since the show stopped filming, Naeck has admitted that he and Warner are no longer together. Here is what went wrong in the relationship.

Ash and Avery
Ash Naeck and Avery Warner | Instagram @averydopecool

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The issues between Avery and Ash

Before Warner even arrived in Australia, she and Naeck were already having issues because Naeck failed to set boundaries with his female clients. As a relationship coach, Naeck was around women all of the time, many of whom did not know he was in a relationship. Once Warner and Naeck were able to get over that boundary, Naeck threw another wrench into the mix. At one of his relationship seminars he spoke about the ways men and women were different and gave one of the most sexist speeches that has ever been showcased on 90 Day Fiance.

Though Warner was uncomfortable with what Naeck was saying, she stayed with him and went to meet his son, Taj. Naeck had originally told Warner that his ex-wife was fine with them moving Taj to the United States when in reality, she was not OK with it at all. Naeck had also previously told Warner that he had gotten divorced 10 years ago. His ex-wife informed Warner that they really had only been divorced for a year.

So, Naeck clearly messed up quite a few times in the relationship.

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What does Ash think went wrong?

In a recent Instagram post, Naeck got candid about what has gone wrong in his past relationships.

“Accountability is a word that is often overlooked and I am guilty as charged,” he wrote. “My challenge was that I would usually rob the person of the chance to be accountable for their actions. The way I used to do this was to quickly excuse their behavior, so that they don’t feel bad about what they have done.”

He went on to describe how behaving this way was just his natural instinct.

“Funnily enough, it was an automatic response whereby I’ll go straight to the space of excusing the person without letting them acknowledge the impact for their hurtful or destructive behavior,” he continued.

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“This used to be my people-pleasing mechanism, more so toward the people I love and care for. Handle and diffuse the situation without giving a chance for the person to own their own sh*t and take responsibility. It’s time for boundaries.”

Are Avery and Ash friends now?

Despite not being in a relationship, Naeck and Warner seem to be on good terms. When rumors started going around accusing Warner of being a bad mother, Naeck defended her, saying she was a great mother, even though she was bad at relationships.

Warner has not spoken ill of her ex either, which is uncommon for a couple in the 90 Day Fiance world. Whether this means they will just keep their relationship friendly or rekindle their romance down the line remains up in the air.