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“Babygirl” Lisa Hamme from Pennsylvania and her Nigerian “baby love,” Usman Umar (who goes by “Sojaboy” in his rap career in his home country), have been causing trouble and sparking rumors ever since they first appeared on this season of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days.

Their 20-year age difference has led to arguments that Usman is in it just for a visa and fame. Meanwhile, recent cheating allegations have suggested Usman might be involved with more women than just his American bride-to-be.

In a recent appearance on Angela Yee’s podcast Lip Service, Usman shockingly implied that Lisa tricked him into staying with her via threats of harming herself. He also hinted that he didn’t truly love Lisa and that he was even willing to take on more wives in the future.

Lisa’s rep responded to Usman’s claims. And his answers surprised many fans, who have witnessed the 90 Day Fiancé star’s extreme on-screen jealousy.

Lisa Hamme of '90 Day Fiance'
Lisa Hamme | TLC via Instagram

The ’90 Day Fiancé’ stars don’t seem to be on the same page in terms of their relationship

On Lip Service, Usman shared plenty of behind-the-scenes details about his true feelings for his much older American fiancée, Lisa. When asked whether he was in love with Lisa, Usman offered a rather lackluster reply.

“Yeah, I have to be,” he said unconvincingly. “Because somebody who has been with you almost every day, you get used to that person. And if you don’t talk to that person, sometimes you miss them. So by the time you start missing somebody, definitely I think you love them or you care for them.”

Yee and her fellow interviewers didn’t exactly take this as a true declaration of love on Usman’s part. Instead, they felt it was an admission that the rumors were true and that Usman was just using Lisa for a K-1 visa.

Usman also told Yee repeatedly that his music career was more important than his relationship with Lisa at the end of the day. What’s more, the 90 Day Fiancé star admitted that at various points he had realized he wasn’t truly in love with Lisa. But because she wanted to be with him so much, he claimed, he wanted to make it work.

Usman claimed he planned to marry more than 1 wife

The interview only got more telling from there. When his interviewers hinted that he got “trapped” into his relationship with Lisa, Usman didn’t pull any punches.

“Honestly, I can say yes. I can say yes,” the 90 Day Fiancé star confessed. “The point here is that I am doing this to make Lisa happy.”

What’s more, Usman admitted that he didn’t necessarily plan to stick with just Lisa even if he did marry her — especially if he wanted children in the future.

In Nigeria, he explained, Muslim men can legally marry up to four wives as long as they can financially provide for them equally. They aren’t permitted to take on more than one wife if they can’t fully provide for their material needs or if they are planning to treat them unequally. (And the men don’t normally need their wives’ permission to do so, at least according to Usman.)

“Lisa cannot give me [a] child, and I need a child. You know?” Usman said. “But if I do this to make her happy, maybe the time is coming that I will have [a] child. Because in my religion, and in my culture, I’m allowed to get married with four wives.”

Lisa’s representative claimed she was open to polygamy but only under certain conditions

When Usman dropped the polygamy bombshell, many 90 Day Fiancé fans were surprised. Lisa’s jealous nature and her anger about his female fans didn’t seem to suggest she’d be down with being a sister wife.

On April 24, Lisa’s promoter and representative, Rocco Straz, spoke to In Touch Weekly about Usman’s recent claims. In addition to confirming that 52-year-old Lisa and 31-year-old Usman were still together and going strong, Straz stuck to Nigerian law as far as what the single mom would consider appropriate in her potential future with Usman.

“As far as four wives in the Islamic religion, it is acceptable for him to take four wives, BUT and I mean BUT, he must be able to provide for all four wives,” Straz said.

He emphasized that this meant Usman would have to be ready to support Lisa and any other wives in full, without any monetary assistance from them, before she would ever consider practicing polygamy in their marriage.

“[This includes] financially, housing, utilities, vehicles, car insurance and medical insurance,” Straz added. “At that point, if he is able to do all of that, he may take another wife. The wives do not have to contribute their personal finances with him.”

It looks like Lisa might be open to the potential of polygamy with Usman — at least for now. But with the number of ups and downs along Lisa and Usman’s rollercoaster of a relationship, who knows what could happen next?