’90 Day Fiancé’: Elizabeth Potthast Castravet Reveals Her True Feelings About Andrei Castravet’s Lack of Employment in Brand-New Sneak Peek
In addition to pushing back against his traditional views on gender roles, many 90 Day Fiancé fans have criticized Andrei for being a stay-at-home-dad and refusing to get a job—while accepting money from Elizabeth’s family and expecting to be the “head of the household.”
The problem came to a head during an awkward dinner between Elizabeth’s and Andrei’s families, just before the couple’s second wedding in Moldova. Both families urged Andrei to get a job in the U.S., but he insisted that Elizabeth wanted him to stay at home. (She disagreed, for the record.)
In a new sneak peek of an upcoming episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Andrei and Elizabeth discussed Elizabeth’s true feelings about his lack of employment.
Elizabeth said Andrei had gotten ‘too comfortable’ staying at home
After enduring a tense night between their families, Andrei and Elizabeth shared an equally conflict-ridden breakfast.
Andrei wanted to know if Elizabeth was afraid to tell her family that she didn’t mind her husband staying at home while she served as the family breadwinner for the time being.
“If you’re saying something in the family, but you’re okay with me staying home, say that to your father,” the 90 Day Fiancé star told his wife. “What are you afraid of?”
But Elizabeth explained that she wasn’t lying to her family. In fact, she wasn’t happy with the couple’s dynamic at all.
“Because I’m not!” Elizabeth declared. “You’re miserable staying at home. Let’s be honest.”
But Andrei didn’t seem to believe his wife. He still wondered if Elizabeth was really just worried about her family’s option of their division of labor.
“What do you want? Do you want to go back and just quit your job?” the 90 Day Fiancé star asked. “And now we have to switch because other people talk to you? Like, you really care about their f*cking opinion? We’re doing good. Our bills are paid, and we have a nice life. So who f*cking cares?”
Elizabeth told 90 Day Fiancé producers her candid feelings about Andrei’s choice to stay at home with baby Eleanor.
In the beginning, she explained, it was true that she didn’t mind the setup. “At first, I was totally fine with Andrei staying at home with Ellie when she was a newborn,” she said. “But now, she’s old enough, she can stay with my mom or whatever.”
Since then, Elizabeth lamented, Andrei seemed to be changing into someone she didn’t recognize. And without drive, Andrei didn’t seem like the person she fell in love with.
“And now I just feel like Andrei’s gotten a little too comfortable, and he’s starting to become more of just a homebody,” the 90 Day Fiancé star complained. “And that’s not who he is. That’s not the man that I married.”
Andrei complained about Elizabeth’s family’s prying questions
In addition to arguing about their issues with work and money, Elizabeth and Andrei disagreed about her family’s role in their relationship. For her part, Elizabeth felt Andrei and her family had put her in the middle of their arguments once again.
“What kind of horse s*it is that?” she wanted to know.
But Andrei placed all the blame solely at the feet of Elizabeth’s brother, Charlie Potthast, and father, Chuck Potthast, who had spent the evening questioning Andrei about his past as a police officer in Moldova.
“I feel like Charlie just asks stupid questions,” the 90 Day Fiancé star snapped.
“Because he’s f*cking here in Moldova waiting to see us get married. What is he gonna talk about?” Elizabeth retorted testily.
Elizabeth complained that Andrei and her family put her ‘in the middle’ of their conflicts constantly
When it came to Elizabeth’s family, Andrei admitted that he often felt like he had no allies.
“I feel like I’m pursued all the time by them,” the 90 Day Fiancé star told his wife.
But Elizabeth thought Andrei shared at least some of the blame for their inability to get along. “Well, I don’t think you’ve proven yourself thus far,” she told her husband bluntly.
And while Andrei said he didn’t have to “prove s*it” to Elizabeth’s father and brother, his wife obviously disagreed. “You kinda do,” she argued. “You’re gonna be in everybody’s lives forever, hopefully.”
“Ohh, hopefully?” Andrei replied sarcastically, taking her aside as a deliberate slight.
Elizabeth told 90 Day Fiancé producers that she wasn’t sure she wanted to go through with the Moldovan wedding at all if Andrei and her family were going to continue “taking jabs at each other.” In the end, she said, it wasn’t worth the stress.
“I don’t think that Andrei and my family need to always put me in the middle like that,” Elizabeth said sadly.