’90 Day Fiancé’: Fans React to Andrei’s Demand That Elizabeth’s Father Pay For Their Second Wedding
90 Day Fiancé stars Andrei Castravet and Elizabeth Potthast quickly became a married couple and proud parents to baby Eleanor shortly after Andrei’s arrival in the U.S. from his home country of Moldova.
While Elizabeth and Andrei went through many ups and downs on their road to wedded bliss in the U.S., there was no bigger threat to their relationship than Andrei’s strained relationship with his wife’s family. Andrei’s in-laws often accused him of being controlling, while Elizabeth’s dad didn’t think his son-in-law worked hard enough to provide for his family.
On the fifth season of TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, it looks like Andrei and Elizabeth are still facing many of the same issues. In a recent episode, Andrei took it upon himself to announce their upcoming second wedding in Moldova in just a month’s time—without consulting his wife beforehand—and even told Elizabeth he expected her to ask her dad to pay for the event.
Andrei pushed Elizabeth to ask her dad to pay for the second wedding
On a recent episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Andrei told Elizabeth’s stunned family that they were invited to the couple’s second wedding in his home country, just a few weeks away. Elizabeth’s sisters wondered how on earth they would get childcare for their babies and take off from work in such a short time.
Meanwhile, Elizabeth’s father, Chuck Potthast, immediately worried that he’d be expected to pay for the wedding. “There were some times in the past when I felt like they’d hit me with the bill,” the 90 Day Fiancé star told TLC producers. “So I hope they don’t come to me for it.”
For her part, Elizabeth admitted she was “mad” about Andrei’s unilateral decision to announce their upcoming second wedding, especially at her father’s birthday party. The 90 Day Fiancé star complained about her husband’s attention-seeking behavior.
“Andrei has made my dad’s birthday completely about himself,” Elizabeth lamented. “And now it’s really making me look bad because the rest of my family thinks that I’m in on this. Andrei has a really, really bad track record with my family, and now, they’re just going to be even more pissed.”
She added angrily, “It feels like I don’t have a say in my own damn wedding.”
Andrei claimed that Elizabeth’s dad was ‘obligated’ to pay for the wedding
On their way home from Chuck’s birthday party, Elizabeth laid into Andrei about his decision to make such a big decision, and announcement, without asking her first. Then she asked about the elephant in the room: “How are we going to pay for this wedding?” Andrei and Elizabeth had struggled financially ever since they first got married, so she knew they wouldn’t be able to afford such a big event.
As he drove home, Andrei told Elizabeth in no uncertain terms what he expected from her dad. “The tradition says, the father of the bride needs to pay for the wedding,” the 90 Day Fiancé star replied.
Andrei’s wife asked him incredulously, “My dad already cut us off, and you want my dad to pay for the wedding?!”
For his part, Andrei defended his decision by saying that Elizabeth’s sisters had each gotten the “wedding of their dreams,” courtesy of their dad. “Chuck didn’t pay for our first wedding,” the 90 Day Fiancé star explained. “I paid for our first wedding, because I had savings from when I was working in Ireland. And I would pay for my daughter’s wedding. And I think Chuck should pay for Elizabeth’s, too.”
Elizabeth looked stricken as her husband laid out exactly what he wanted from her dad. “He is obligated to us,” Andrei exclaimed. “He did it for your sisters, and everybody got the wedding of their dreams. You need to get the wedding of your dreams, too. We’re gonna make it happen.”
“I didn’t plan on asking my dad for money,” Elizabeth retorted. “Did you?”
“No, you’re gonna ask him!” Andrei replied.
“My a**,” Elizabeth snapped in response. But her husband insisted that he was merely following “tradition” by expecting her dad to foot the bill.
Some ’90 Day Fiancé’ fans thought Andrei’s request was presumptuous
During the episode, many 90 Day Fiancé fans took to Twitter to suggest that Andrei’s attitude was entitled. Many criticized him for expecting his wife’s dad to pay for their second wedding when he didn’t have a job or any primary source of income himself.
“Andrei I have lost all respect for you,” one Twitter user wrote. “Bullying your wife into asking her parents for money because you know they have money. I know you wouldn’t pull that mess if her family was poor. You want a dream wedding go get a job! Your wife needs to kick you to the curb.”
Other 90 Day Fiancé viewers wondered why Andrei refused to ask for the money himself. “Andrei, since you’re such a man,” one wrote on Twitter, “why don’t you ask Liz’s dad for money for the second wedding?”
Another critic agreed, expressing doubt that Elizabeth’s husband paid for the first wedding to begin with. “Who paid for this wedding in Moldova when Andrei ain’t worked a day since he stepped on US soil?” they wrote on Twitter.
“Andrei plans everything on a caviar budget with a Walmart income,” yet another fan joked.
Another critic summed up many 90 Day Fiancé fans’ feelings about Andrei’s “hypocrisy” when it came to money, writing: “Andrei: The tradition says, the father of the bride needs to pay for the wedding. Does the tradition also say the father of the bride needs to pay for ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING while the groom doesn’t do sh**?”