’90 Day Fiancé’: Geoffrey Breaks Down What Really Happened Between Him, Mary, and Varya

When Geoffrey Paschel left Russia, he considered things between him and  Varya Malina over. But as 90 Day Fiancé fans know, she appeared at his home sometime later to surprise him in an attempt to win him back. Geoffrey was, however, occupied with another woman named Mary.

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What happened between Geoffrey and Mary before Varya knocked on his door, according to Geoffrey

In an interview he did with The Domenick Nati Show on May 19, Geoffrey broke down the timeline between when he returned from Russia and when Varya knocked at his door.

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“From what you saw, it was roughly about three months. It was Mary’s birthday, that’s why I took her to dinner, that’s why I gave her flowers. The conversation moved into something more romantic and it kind of went from there. Then pretty much Varya showed up the next day. So it was like a quick, spontaneous thing going,” he said.  

Geoffrey says Varya’s surprise was not ‘staged’

Some fans feel the whole situation was staged, but Geoffrey insists that he was completely taken by surprise.

“This was a complete surprise. I hear people say, ‘Oh this is so staged. This is so fake.’ Completely. I was caught in the moment. You saw my sh*t-eating grin on. I didn’t know what to do. It felt like my heart went down to my toes. But it was completely in that moment. And Mary was still at my house from the night before,” he said, adding that Mary spent the night because she’d “drank a little bit.”  

“So I didn’t let her drive kind of thing. And, you know, we hung out,” he said of their night together.

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Going fast is who I am. It doesn’t matter if it is riding a bike, jumping out of a plane, or, as many have seen, jumping into a relationship. For as long as I can remember, it has always been one of my personality traits. Some may call me impulsive. However you define it, I have learned to embrace it. Obviously, there are risks: I can burn out easily, become unhealthy and mentally drained, decrease my life expectancy, or race by opportunities blurred by my speed. No matter what, I am always in high gear. I have adjusted to this lifestyle and wouldn’t have it any other way… . I have become increasingly vigilant in my actions. I may push the bike to its limits, but I am always looking ahead—watching—analyzing—predicting others' subsequent moves. This perspective has saved my life numerous times and protected me time and time again. I may be extremely spontaneous and adventurous, but my risk-taking is paralleled with hazard management. Just as fast as I can get into a situation, I can get out of it. It's about self-preservation. . My survival depends on what I allow to affect me and what I deflect. Of course, I can initially react to situations with visible emotions, but then am quickly reminded that I only control my own actions. Why fuel stress caused by actions of others? This gives others control of your life—such a vulnerable place to be. When I accepted the fact that there was no longer a future with Varya, I chose to be resilient. I turned off my emotions, checked out mentally, and left. . While riding the bike down the open road, I am left with only my thoughts, I clear my head. It aids me in self-reflection as I scrutinize my own actions and those of others. This forces me to “think better in the future,” be smarter, wiser, and with a more well-informed mind. I don’t know why things happen, but I accept them nonetheless. Nothing irks me more than someone asking me to interpret the actions of others. The only actions I can be held accountable for are my own. . What do you do when you’re faced with a dilemma? Analyze every potential outcome? Weigh the pros and cons? Seek solitude to clear your head and devise a new plan? I do…I do them all. Welcome to ME.

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Geoffrey says he had been expecting the 90 Day Fiancé crew, but not Varya.

“So the doorbell rang. I assumed it was production because they were gonna come over and film some b-roll, film me doing whatever. The thing about it is, they had no idea Mary was there. They had zero idea themselves. So There was no communication in that because they were tending to Varya, bringing Varya out and filming Varya,” he said.

The reality star continued: “And they told me, ‘Hey, we’re gonna be there in 30 minutes. Open the gate, tie up the dog.’ Which I did all that. Went back in the house, hung out, talked a little bit, heard the doorbell ring, I answered the door–my panel is translucent so you can’t really see through it. You can see through it but you can’t see what’s on the other side–so I answered the door thinking it was production and it was Varya with her, ‘Surprise!’” 

The consensus between fans seems to be: Why are Varya and Mary fighting over Geoffrey?

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