’90 Day Fiancé’: Mursel’s Lies to Anna and Family Are Worse Than TLC Even Realized
Mursel Mistanoglu and Anna Campisi are one of the couples on this season of 90 Day Fiancé. The pair met through an online Facebook group for beekeepers. They are both 38 years old, and though they share a common interest, they have moral, cultural, and language differences that cause challenges for the couple.
What is their relationship like?
Mursel Mistanoglu is a Muslim from Turkey. Mistanoglu has never been married and has no children. His native language is Turkish, and he doesn’t speak English well.
Anna Campisi is an American and lives in Nebraska. She is a divorced mother of three sons. Campisi’s native language is English, and she doesn’t speak Turkish well.
The couple already have significant challenges in their relationship. They each have vastly different cultural backgrounds and have different views on modesty and morals. Cultural differences were apparent when Campisi went wedding dress shopping; Campisi stated that she preferred a sleeveless dress while Mistanoglu would prefer her to be covered entirely. They also speak different languages and often rely on translation apps to help them communicate with each other.
Mistanoglu has made it clear to Campisi that his parents will be against their relationship when they find out about her children. Mistanoglu has a strained relationship with Campisi’s three children, especially with the oldest two boys. To top it all off, Mistanoglu has a bad habit of lying.
Mursel Mistanoglu’s history of lies
On the November 17th, episode of 90 Day Fiance, Mursel told Anna that he intended to keep Campisi’s children a secret from his family. He said that it would “shame” his family to know that Campisi had children from a previous marriage. He told Campisi that he would reveal the truth to his parents in ten years. He said to producers that he would tell his parents the truth on their death bed. Campisi and her family were upset to learn that Mistanoglu planned to lie about Campisi’s motherhood status.
On the December 15th episode, “The Truth Shall Set You Free,” Campisi had a drunken heart-to-heart with some of her friends. Her friends admitted that they don’t think Mistanoglu will be a good husband or stepfather. Campisi’s friends urged her to confront Mistanoglu about the importance of telling his parents the truth about her children. Campisi gave Mistanoglu an ultimatum – to admit to his parents that she has three sons or there will be no wedding. He ignored the warning, stating that he wouldn’t tell his parents the truth and that he still wanted to get married.
Campisi’s children are a huge part of her life. Mistanoglu’s insistence on being secretive about her children is disrespectful towards Campisi and her family. His pattern of lying reveals that he cares more about avoiding confrontation than he does about integrity.
What did Mursel Mistanoglu tell his parents on the latest episode?
It seems there was a little information lost in translation. In a preview for the season 7 episode, “Judgment Day,” Mistanoglu’s conversation with his parents was mistranslated. Though TLC translated him, saying, “Anna has three children.” According to users on Reddit, what he actually said in Turkish is best translated as ” I just found out Anna has three children.” That is quite a difference!
What he actually told his parents makes him seem innocent in the situation, as if he didn’t already know. He already knew she had three kids and seemed okay with it. Why hide it from his parents and make his fiance seem secretive? Instead of standing by his partner, he made it seem like she is the one lying and being deceptive.
When his family found out about Campisi’s children, they urged him to leave Campisi and return to Turkey.
Lies and deception in the relationship could spell trouble for the couple. Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Even though Mistanoglu finally told his parents about Campisi’s children, he is still deceiving them. He wants them to think that he did not already know that she had children. If Campisi and Mistanoglu plan for their marriage to last, they have a lot of work to do to improve communication and build trust.