On recent episodes of the fifth season of TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Tania Maduro and her husband, Syngin Colchester, headed back to his home country of South Africa to visit his brother, Dylan Colchester, after Dylan was hospitalized for a blood clot.
During the trip, Syngin and Tania fought bitterly in front of his family and friends alike. Tania accused her husband of lacking direction in life and partying too hard. Meanwhile, Syngin claimed his wife was controlling, admitted he didn’t know if he wanted to stay married or have kids with her, and wondered if he should even return to the U.S.
In a sneak peek of an upcoming episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Syngin sat down with his family for a heart-to-heart about his marriage. Syngin’s family warned him about the potential pitfalls of staying with Tania, given what they’d seen during the couple’s visit to South Africa.
Syngin’s sister said she’d now seen a new, negative side of Tania
Before his return trip to Connecticut with Tania, Syngin talked about the reality of the situation with his sister, brother, and mom.
Charys, Syngin’s teenage sister, said in previous episodes that Tania and Syngin’s arguments actually made her nervous to get married herself in the future. When she saw what might happen “behind closed doors” between couples who seemed happy with each other, she was more than a little concerned about her own love life as an adult.
Now, Charys told 90 Day Fiancé producers, she wasn’t even sure if her brother would stay married to Tania at all.
“I’m not so sure they will make it,” Syngin’s sister admitted. “What I’ve seen so far, this time that we’ve been together, that just showed me that I don’t know Tania as well as I think I do.”
“Maybe she’s not all that good as I thought she was,” Charys confessed sadly.
Tania’s husband admitted he wasn’t sure about returning to the U.S.
Syngin’s mom, Charmain, took the opportunity to ask her son, point blank, if he actually wanted to go back to the U.S. Dylan, too, asked if he was ever “tempted” to just stay in South Africa for the long haul.
Tania’s husband admitted that, yes, he’d certainly considered the possibility of remaining in his home country. And his constant arguments with his wife didn’t make the prospect of heading back to Connecticut—where he often felt lost and alone because of culture shock—any easier.
“It’s a little tough for me to even think about going back right now, when things aren’t really going good in our relationship,” Syngin confessed.
The 90 Day Fiancé star admitted he was happiest in South Africa, surrounded by his beloved family and close friends. However, he felt he couldn’t just let go of his commitment to Tania at this point, citing his “old habits” of being too ready to exit any given situation.
The ’90 Day Fiancé’ star’s family warned him about his potential marital issues
Syngin’s mom advised him that, despite his doubts, he was going to have to make a final decision about whether or not he was going to be with Tania for the long haul.
If it “wasn’t going to work out” anyway, Charmain warned Syngin, then he was doing both Tania and himself a disservice by returning to the U.S. and prolonging the inevitable.
“You’re wasting your time. You’re wasting her time. And you’re wasting your journey,” she told her son.
Charmain explained to 90 Day Fiancé producers that she’d been a bit blindsided by Tania and Syngin’s many arguments since arriving in South Africa. She’d thought everything was fine in their relationship, but now, she realized she hadn’t actually understood the depths of the issues in their marriage.
For his part, Syngin admitted that, if things didn’t get better in his relationship, he did see the possibility of divorce in his future.
The 90 Day Fiancé star mused about his potential future, or lack thereof, with Tania.
“Am I committing to something that’s not gonna work in the end, or am I committing to something that I shouldn’t be right now?” Syngin wondered aloud. He confessed that he was still “a little confused” about what to do in his marriage, especially if their problems didn’t get any better.