’90 Day Fiancé’: Why Angela Deem Says She’s ‘Scared’ to Marry Michael Ilesanmi
On 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Angela Deem has finally returned to Nigeria to marry Michael Ilesanmi. However, there are some major hurdles they need to overcome in order for them to finally make things official.
Angela recently learned that she has no more eggs of her own, and to have a baby at 54 could lead to serious complications for her. She revealed the news to some of Michael’s family, and she also said she won’t be putting up with side chicks or second wives.
With tensions running high, Angela and Michael meet up with Michael’s Aunt Lydia again, and this meeting goes horribly wrong.
Angela Deem and Michael Ilesanmi meet up with Michael’s Aunt Lydia
Angela and Michael don’t have a whole lot of time left to plan their impending nuptials, so they meet up with Lydia to talk about things further. It’s also important for Lydia to be in the loop because she said the family would help with some of the wedding expenses.
Aunt Lydia asks right away about the marriage counseling the couple went to that’s required for them to get approved to become married. Angela details that the people she spoke with want her to be “submissive.” She tells Lydia that in America, women do the same jobs that men do, and men and women are considered equal.
“That is not the case in Nigeria,” Aunt Lydia explains. “Even if you do that same job, the husband is still the head.”
Angela’s response is priceless. “Thank God we’re living in America,” she says as she looks in Michael’s direction.
Why Angela says she’s ‘scared’ to marry Michael
Michael attempts to tell Angela how he feels about the situation. “Angie, but you know my culture is still gonna be part of our daily activities,” Michael tries to say to Angela, who isn’t trying to hear that.
Angela responds by making a comment about how Michael is with her. “It seems to me…in front of Aunt Lydia, you’re not who you tell me you are,” Angela bluntly says to Michael at the table. “In front of Aunt Lydia, you’re shooting her a bunch of bull.” Michael says he isn’t, to which Angela replies, “OK then you’re shooting me a bunch of bull,” Angela tells him. Michael tries to get in front of the whole thing, but it’s too late.
Angela clearly feels like Michael is acting different in front of his Aunt Lydia, and trying to make both sides happy. “You told me you are going to stand on your feet. What is happening now?” Lydia asks Michael. It sounds like Michael is trying to please both Angela and his family, but it seems to not be going so well right now.
Michael makes the mistake of using the word “submissive,” and that’s when things take a turn. “This is why I’m scared to marry him,” Angela reveals. “If you think you’re going to come over there, and live with me, and I’m going to bow down to you, I am not bowing down to you or no living man, woman at all.”
Angela is concerned that Michael could be acting one way with her and another with his family. She is worried he’s just telling her what she wants to hear, and then he could change when the time comes. It’s concerning for Angela, since she wants to bring him to the United States to live with her.
‘I told him how I am’
Angela explains that Michael knew from the beginning how she is about things. “At the beginning of this relationship, I told him how I am. I told him the truth,” Angela says to producers. “So I get frustrated, because I really don’t know if Michael’s lying to me about being submissive, or lying to his family that I will be.”
When Angela gets up to go to the bathroom, Lydia tells Michael that Angela is “bossy.” “She wants to be the boss,” Lydia says to Michael. “She’s bossy, can’t you see that?” When Angela returns, Lydia makes a comment: “But with this kind of attitude, I don’t know about your marriage.”
Angela says she’s done talking, and she walks away. She says the wedding is off, and it’s unclear where things go from here for Angela and Michael. Can they get through this together? Only time will tell.