On 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Syngin Colchester and his wife, Tania Maduro, have finally returned to South Africa after Syngin’s brother lands in the hospital. Tensions already seem to be high before the trip even begins. Tania is worried about Syngin’s drinking, and it’s especially worrisome for her because he’s going back home, and he’ll be surrounded by his friends. Tania expresses her concerns about Syngin’s willingness to “settle down” to Syngin’s mother Charmain, and sister, Charys, when they get some quality time together.
Syngin Colchester’s brother was in the hospital, so Syngin returns with Tania to see him
Syngin’s brother, Dylan, just went through a difficult time when he landed in the hospital with a blood clot. He fell on his knee, and a few days later, he had a blood clot in his lung. He ended up in the intensive care unit, but luckily, he was discharged and is recovering back at home. Syngin knows he is needed in South Africa, so he and Tania return for a much-needed visit.
Syngin and his mother and sister go out to get some groceries, and he speaks about his relationship issues, saying it’s been “tough.” He says that he and Tania have stupid arguments together, and that they “bump heads” about things. “We’re both actually very different people,” Syngin reveals.
Why Tania wants Syngin to ‘settle down’
Tania has her time to speak with Charmain and Charys as well. While Syngin is out doing his own thing, they go out to do some shopping and spend some quality time together. “Getting one-on-one time with Tania, it’s quite nice,” Charmain says to the cameras. “I just wanted to actually make her feel comfortable being with us as a family.”
She asks Tania how she feels about being back in South Africa. “I feel good, I’m happy, you know, it sucks that Dylan’s knee’s what happened, but I’m happy that it brought us here,” Tania reveals to Syngin’s mom and sister. “I know that Syngin’s homesick, but…. Yeah.”
Tania is ready for Syngin to “settle down.” They’re married now, and the responsibilities are piling up. Syngin still needs to find a job, and Tania is worried about his drinking. She also thinks part of Syngin feels like he’s losing “freedom” by settling down with Tania now that they’re husband and wife. The time has come for Syngin to embrace his new life as a husband and where that could lead. Syngin’s mother inquires if Syngin seems happy in the United States.
“He seems happy, I think so,” Tania reassures her. “I feel like I compromised in the beginning of our relationship, I did a lot of things I would have never done. And now I’m asking him to settle down. I think he wants to, but part of him feels like he’s losing his freedom. I’m like, ‘I don’t want you to feel like your losing your freedom being committed or in a relationship with me.'”
‘I partied hard when I was 21. I’m like done with that, and so I call him out on it’
Charmain asks Tania if she wants to change Syngin, and she says no. “But, it’s just sometimes it’s just the partying. I partied hard when I was 21. I’m like done with that, and so I call him out on it,” Tania tells Syngin’s mother.
Syngin’s sister, Charys, tells the cameras that Syngin “finds it a bit difficult to settle down.” She also details that Tania might be “controlling.” She thinks they both have things to work on.
Tania asks Charmain if Syngin can find a balance, or if she’s “waiting for nothing.” “No, I think there is definitely something,” Charmain replies. “You both have to compromise, not just the one.” Tania thinks Syngin’s “fear of commitment” might be holding them back.
Tania and Syngin’s mother and sister eventually hug it out, and they seem to be bonding. Tania is getting closer to Syngin’s family, and hopefully, it will be good for her overall relationship with Syngin. She could maybe come to understand her husband more, and he in turn could understand her better as well.