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There are plenty of good reasons for fans to be fascinated by Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s relationship. Not only are they music superstars, but they’re also glamorous, they have a beautiful family, and they have weathered the kind of relationship problems that would sink most marriages.

But another reason for the enduring interest in the details of their life together is that the couple works very hard to keep their private life out of the public eye. This has served them well ever since the beginning, and it was already firmly in place on the day they were married. 

Famously private since the beginning — whenever that was

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The couple has always kept their business quiet. To this day, it’s not clear exactly when they started dating. Rumors had been flying for years before they finally admitted they were dating. 

At least part of their discretion may stem from some advice Beyoncé got from media superstar Oprah. She told the singer to keep their relationship quiet.

New relationships are fragile, and famous couples are under an enormous amount of pressure because of all the scrutiny they get. Oprah advised them to protect their privacy for the sake of their relationship. 

That would turn out to be very important advice for the couple in the years to come. 

Their wedding was super exclusive

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On April 4, 2008, Jay-Z and Beyoncé were married in a very private ceremony. Only 40 guests were allowed to attend, and the ceremony was held at Jay-Z’s house in New York City penthouse.

If that sounds like it was crowded, it really wasn’t. The home covered 13,500 sprawling square feet, plenty of room for the happy couple and their small guest list. 

Because it was so hush-hush, not many details of the day are known. Tina Knowles, Beyoncé’s mom, apparently designed the dress. The wedding was reportedly filled with lots of love, some tears, 70,000 white orchids, and no phones.

To preserve their privacy, Beyoncé and Jay-Z asked all their guests to leave their phones at home. While people today are much more aware of the dangers of guests recording their wedding, Jay-Z and Beyonce were among first to put their foot down on the subject. No phones were allowed. 

Their discretion has served them well

The couple’s choice to jealously guard their privacy has been important in their relationship. They famously weathered a painful cheating scandal a few years ago. Although they couldn’t keep all the details out of the public eye, they kept very quiet about what was between them as they worked through their problems. 

Today they seem to be on more firm footing in their marriage, and they recently celebrated their 12th anniversary. Their process of healing was almost certainly made easier because they didn’t complain about each other or spread the shocking details around. 

The Carters’ relationship appears to be strong again, and maybe that’s in part because they’re still protective of their privacy. Last December the couple attended Diddy’s birthday party.

As the guests hit the dance floor, someone apparently started recording Beyoncé dancing. Jay-Z wasn’t happy about this, and he immediately shut it down. He snatched the phone out of the offending person’s hand and made it clear that no one was going to record his wife without permission.

Their ultra-private wedding was just the beginning. For Beyonce and Jay-Z, protecting their privacy is a way of life. They are determined to hold onto the things that matter to them, and this is a big one. It seems to have served them very well, so their many fans will just have to wonder about many of the details of their lives.